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The victim-hood of self-loathing
No good deed goes unpunished. I was reminded of this in recent days when the bitterness of a self-loathing human distracted me from what is important about life. It’s not the bitterness that was jarring. It’s the intensity, and the immensity of the self-loathing that has become the battle cry of too many that jarred…
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You’re human. Be human.
We need to be careful with subscribing to a victim mindset. Any form of abuse leaves emotional scars. But that doesn’t mean it breaks us. Nor does it mean that it’s impossible to heal from it. Don’t believe everything you read. No human is broken. And every mind can be healed. When we convince ourselves…
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Stop judging. Be human.
⚠️ TRIGGER WARNING This meme showed up on my timeline earlier and highlighted everything that is wrong with the way in which we treat each other. There are a few terms that I generally disagree with (sometimes very strongly) if used to describe people. These terms include broken, damaged, toxic, and basically anything that reduces…
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Do you see you?
Life conditions us to look at what we’re getting, rather than what is given. That means that we focus on what we’re giving, and not what others are receiving from us. That’s how we end up misinterpreting the signals that we get from them, while they also misinterpret the signals that they get from us.…
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Be the village
While it takes a village to raise a child, it also takes a village to corrupt a child. Parenting is a monumental challenge in itself, but becomes infinitely more challenging when being done by a single parent. Add to the single parenting challenge by having an obstructive co-parent, and the challenge continues to grow ever…
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Divinely obnoxious?
Godliness is like humility. It is lost when we actively pursue it. Living by the doctrine to which you subscribe is infinitely more important than preaching it. People learn from how you treat them, not from how you chastise them. Judging the faith of another reveals the cracks in your self-worth more than it offers…
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Labelling humans
We dehumanise the human when we label their emotional experience as an illness. The moment we attach a label to a life experience, we focus on the label and discard the merits of the experience. We make people invisible when we deny the reality of their experience by suggesting that there is something clinically wrong…
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It doesn’t make you stronger
The belief that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger is a lie. It may prepare us for greater trials and opportunities, but we also grow impatient or intolerant when we find ourselves facing the same issues repeatedly. Life feels fulfilling and purposeful when we solve a problem and move on, but feels exceedingly frustrating…
