It’s not always about you

The truth is, if you want to matter that much to someone else, shouldn’t they matter equally as much to you? If they do, and you find that they don’t have as much time for you as they used to, or are behaving differently to what you know them to be about, do you claim…

A silent betrayal

The betrayal of trust is not always due to blatant acts of dishonesty. Most often, it’s the silence or the restraint from a loved one when their words or their embrace is most needed. It’s the shrug when we reach out to them or offer them support, or the deliberate obliviousness when we express our…

My silent scream

When rage is all you have left in you, know that you’ve surrendered yourself to the betrayal of the world. When rage becomes a silent scream or a deliberate protest, despite your best intentions, you are still defined by that betrayal. When rage colours your view of the world, you see demons in angels, and…

To be heard

When moderation is surrendered in protest against control or oppression, vulgarity seems like the only reasonable way to be heard. Rather than focus on the need to be heard, we should consider why our voice may have been lost to the noise around us. Adding to that noise further erodes rational thought and expression, creating…

Getting it wrong

An excerpt from my first book, The Egosystem, contemplating the impact of things not working out often leads to our greatest moments of inspiration. That’s part of the beauty of defeat. It creates a deepening appreciation for the dreams that we court. But we all have a tolerance level beyond which even the probability of…

Don’t label your struggle

Mental health is about hope. The more hope we have for experiencing joy tomorrow, the better our mental health today. The human experience is not an illness. The best way to protect your mental health is by recognising your humanness. Don’t allow your reality to be labelled as something more than your experience of the…