How does death change your perspective? Death doesn’t change it. Death defines it. In the absence of finality, we take things for granted. The moment there is no risk of loss or of […]
Do you enjoy being held responsible for how someone else feels about themselves? When they feel good and attribute that to us, we feel good. But does it feel good when they blame […]
There’s a fallacy out there that it’s possible to live without expectation. Yeah, it’s a fallacy, cos it’s impossible. When you try to live without expectation, you’re defending yourself against being hurt. When […]
The more we emphasise our rights, the less time we spend understanding our responsibilities. The rights that others have over us is the responsibilities that we have towards them, and vice versa. The […]
You lie to yourself most when you tell someone, “You make me feel…” No one can make you feel anything without your permission. You give your permission when you’re more focused on what […]
Judgement is only ever supposed to be the first step in correcting what’s wrong. Sadly, it’s most often the only step that we take when faced with unbecoming behaviour from others. Worse still, […]
While abuse is never to be taken lightly, if we’re not careful, we can easily become a tool of the abuser. A betrayal of trust, especially if repeated often, changes the lenses through […]
Betrayal stings. It doesn’t always take the form of an explicit breach of trust. Most often, I believe, betrayal is felt when we put in the effort to make significant others aware of […]
Do you enjoy being held responsible for how someone else feels about themselves? When they feel good and attribute that to us, we feel good. But does it feel good when they blame […]
There’s a fallacy out there that it’s possible to live without expectation. Yeah, it’s a fallacy, cos it’s impossible. When you try to live without expectation, you’re defending yourself against being hurt. When […]
The more we emphasise our rights, the less time we spend understanding our responsibilities. The rights that others have over us is the responsibilities that we have towards them, and vice versa. The […]
You lie to yourself most when you tell someone, “You make me feel…” No one can make you feel anything without your permission. You give your permission when you’re more focused on what […]
Judgement is only ever supposed to be the first step in correcting what’s wrong. Sadly, it’s most often the only step that we take when faced with unbecoming behaviour from others. Worse still, […]
While abuse is never to be taken lightly, if we’re not careful, we can easily become a tool of the abuser. A betrayal of trust, especially if repeated often, changes the lenses through […]
Betrayal stings. It doesn’t always take the form of an explicit breach of trust. Most often, I believe, betrayal is felt when we put in the effort to make significant others aware of […]