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Your dignity is yours to claim
Did you notice how some people, when faced with soul destroying realities, are still dignified in how they rise above it. If you wait for your aggressor or abuser to treat you with dignity before you find reason to respect yourself, you’re doing life back to front. Expecting recognition of your humanness from the world…
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Patiently persevere
Life has never been simple, and only threatens to become more complicated with each day that passes. Sometimes I flirt with the idea that perhaps I was destined to struggle with so much so that I can learn the lessons that need to be learnt to share them with others. But my gut says that…
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Own your failure, own your growth
Why do we feel accomplished and proud of our efforts when things work out, but we blame fate or taqdeer when we encounter trials or failure? The reality is, given our ability to reason and to choose how we respond to what we are faced with, both good and bad, we’ll never have certainty as…
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The courage to own your life
The courage to own your life will pay dividends long after you’re gone. It’s an investment in the generations to come. In the same way that we look back on our predecessors or great grandparents and feel a sense of awe about their achievements, or their way of life, generations from now, someone may be…
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The death of critical thinkers
Critical thinking is lost when we strive to belong at all costs. When our need for inclusion overwhelms our objectivity, we give up what we stand for in favour of what the group stands for. If that group is driven by a collective victim mindset, we’ll buy into it while finding strength in being around…
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Knowing your place
Understanding where you fit into the strategy of the lives of your significant others will save you a lot of disappointment and even pain. More than this, understanding where you reside in the totem pole of their priorities is essential if you hope to maintain your sanity. If you are not aware of these two…
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Faithfully hopeful
Abandoning hope in something good means that we are investing hope in the relief of not trying any longer. It means that we hope for ease after having struggled through the anguish and pain of trying to achieve something important, but failed. Sometimes we hope that abandoning hope might give others reason to care or…
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Conveniently judgemental
Judgement is only ever supposed to be the first step in correcting what’s wrong. Sadly, it’s most often the only step that we take when faced with unbecoming behaviour from others. Worse still, judgement is easy to dish out about issues and incidents that are none of our business because having an opinion on something…
