Tag: selfawareness

  • Are you abused, or an abuser?

    Are you abused, or an abuser?

    While abuse is never to be taken lightly, if we’re not careful, we can easily become a tool of the abuser. A betrayal of trust, especially if repeated often, changes the lenses through which we view the behaviour of others. If we’re not careful, the bitterness of such betrayal wears down our tolerance or patience […]

  • Are you betraying yourself?

    Are you betraying yourself?

    Betrayal stings. It doesn’t always take the form of an explicit breach of trust. Most often, I believe, betrayal is felt when we put in the effort to make significant others aware of what is important to us, only to watch them repeatedly take it for granted, or treat it with disregard. Betrayal is what […]

  • Who defines your behaviour?

    Who defines your behaviour?

    Understanding can only result from sincere interest in what someone is going through. When we try to advise without first seeking to understand, we’re judging, rather than supporting. We’re dictating, rather than uplifting. Doing for others what you would have done unto you is never more true than in that moment when you find someone […]

  • Your misery is your downfall

    Your misery is your downfall

    We rarely share with the world the conversation that we have with ourselves in our head. Our internal conversations are only shared when we’ve exhausted all avenues in trying to understand why someone important to us could have had reason to treat us so badly. The harsh tones and unwarranted criticism that we try to […]

  • Who cares?

    Who cares?

    How often do you indulge in self-care because you truly value yourself, versus doing it because you have no reason to believe that anyone else cares enough to do it for you? Just because we believe we’re worth it, doesn’t mean that we treat ourselves kindly out of gratitude for who we are. Self-care that […]

  • Pitying yourself because of your self-pity

    Pitying yourself because of your self-pity

    When we realise the impact that our self-pity has on those around us, we’ll discover that we’re part of the cycle that leads to us feeling sorry for ourselves. Focusing on what we don’t have distracts us from all the opportunities that are possible with what we do have. Similarly, focusing on who we are […]

  • When gratitude becomes a transaction

    When gratitude becomes a transaction

    When we lack gratitude for who we are but wish to feel grateful, we surround ourselves with things and people who don’t expect more from us than we expect from ourselves. To do this, we must push away those who believe that we’re capable of more. Focusing on proving your gratitude, to yourself and to […]

  • Are you really passionate?

    Are you really passionate?

    They say that there is no limit to what a man can do if he doesn’t care who gets the credit for it. Right there is the reason why most of us don’t achieve our dreams. We chase validation more than we pursue excellence. When we don’t get that validation, we give up our dreams […]