Perspective defines our reality.Taking the worst from an experience doesn't diminish the good that it contains. It simply denies us the benefit that is waiting to be experienced.The opposite being true too. Focusing on the benefit reduces the impact of the bad that we experienced.Maintaining a healthy balance between the two keeps us grounded. Going [...]
Self-worth is contaminated when we try to define it by the way we think others perceive us.Whether their perception is correct or not is irrelevant.The fact that their perception has more sway over our self-worth than our perception of ourselves is what determines the difference between a healthy self esteem, and an unhealthy one.Many struggle [...]
There are so many memes encouraging gut feelings and instincts to drive or decisions about how to treat others.I wish there would be more making us aware of what creates that feeling in our gut to begin with.The emotion most commonly experienced as a physical sensation is that of fear. And fear, more than anywhere [...]
We choose what we take from life.Understanding those choices is therefore key to finding peace, or joy.Our choices, even though sometimes painful, are always based on good intentions in that moment of choosing.But, when that good intention is driven by a need to establish our significance rather than connect with the value that we want [...]
Those who oppress others are often the first to draw attention to the weakness or inadequacy of those that they oppress.They do this to pacify their conscience so that they can avoid the guilt of treating others poorly.The reason why judgement works well in such cases, for both the abuser and the abused, is because [...]
The original Afrikaans saying for this is somewhat more impactful.'Die wat nie will hoor nie, moet voel.'Translated, that means that if you don't want to listen, then you'll feel the pain.While it may have been regularly used as a taunt by teachers and parents towards misbehaving kids, it is totally apt for adults as well.Our [...]