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Be you…unapologetically

The opinions that others have of us affects us most when we are not convinced about who we are.

It’s self-doubt that creates the space for others to influence how we feel about ourselves.

Be it a troubled relationship with a family member, a partner, an ex spouse, or even a friend or colleague, the moment their words about us weighs more than what we think of ourselves, we need to recognise that we needed validation more than we needed companionship or a healthy relationship with them.

Our disappointment in them when they behave badly should not extend to disappointment in ourselves.

The moment we judge ourselves harshly after they’ve treated us badly, we’re diminishing our self-worth by believing that we’re not even good enough for someone who has questionable values.

That’s how we lose ourselves to the lack of self-respect in others, or in ourselves.

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Break the stigma

We dehumanise the human when we label their emotional experience as an illness.

The moment we attach a label to a life experience, we focus on the label and discard the merits of the experience.

We make people invisible when we deny the reality of their experience by suggesting that there is something clinically wrong with them, despite causality of their emotional upheaval being clearly associated with their experiences in life.

The victim readily embraces such labels because it offers hope where they feel hopeless.

The oblivious happily embrace such labels because it demands less emotional investment, or less accountability in their efforts to uplift or support those around them.

Our aversion to embrace the entirety of the human behind the troubled behaviour denies the victim a voice, or a claim to their painful experiences in life.

These labels are worn with shame because it denies us our humanness and makes us a symptom.

You cannot break the stigma of mental health by undermining the humanness of the ones affected by the stigma.

Kill the label, kill the stigma.

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Always hope

When we focus on the struggles of our lives, we feel defeated.

When we focus on the growth, we feel empowered to overcome future obstacles.

But we’re human. We doubt ourselves and sometimes we feel entitled to peace.

In the process, we create self-fulfilling prophecies by growing despondent when things to go wrong, rather than looking for the opportunities to create something better.

We limit our ability to overcome obstacles by telling ourselves that there is a limit to what we’re capable of dealing with.

Rather than embracing the challenges without preempting the outcomes, we end up focusing on how close we are to that limit that we set for ourselves and then grow defensive the moment we believe things are getting too close to it.

That’s how we prevent ourselves from trying beyond a certain point, and that’s how we grow to believe that some things are impossible to overcome.

Sometimes, when things seem like they’re falling apart, they may just be falling into place. But when we fixate on what’s falling apart, we deny ourselves the opportunity to see how it may be contributing towards our dreams and goals that were being hindered by what we had in the first place.

Breathe, beloved. And let faith, not fear, guide you through the storm.

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Respectfully dishonest

This is especially true for our relationships with ourselves, more than it reflects on our relationships with others.

We disrespect ourselves when we avoid truths that feel shameful or disappointing about who we are.

That shame or disappointment that we feel is because we’re looking at ourselves through other people’s eyes, or at least what we think they would think of us if they knew what we’re hiding within.

We respect ourselves when we focus on understanding rather than judging why we’re not being true to the standard that we want to live up to.

But that standard must be our own aspiration, and not a standard defined by society or anyone else.

Someone else may suggest or advise on what is worth pursuing, but we must adopt that as our own aspiration, with conviction, or else we’ll again judge ourselves to be a success or a failure when we exert ourselves towards achieving that goal.

If you’re dishonest with yourself or with others, then respect is no longer part of that interaction.

Take time to reflect and recalibrate your efforts, and leave the judgement to those who will judge regardless of your best efforts towards them.

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Reconnect with your innate wisdom

We all have an innate wisdom that we lose sight of as the distractions of life accumulate.

When we go out in search of answers and adopt methods that worked for someone else, we further distance ourselves from that innate wisdom.

This distancing that occurs undermines our authenticity, and leaves us feeling at odds with life rather than comforting us.

To reconnect with that peace that feels so elusive, we must reconnect with that innate wisdom, or else life will continue to feel like a detached experience.

It is only in sincere conversation that truths are encountered and wisdom adopted.

For this reason, I am not hers to teach you anything new. My sole purpose is to reconnect you with the wisdom that you already have within you.

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Demand more…of yourself

Unless you believe that you are capable of achieving more, you will always hold on to less.

That belief is more about feeling worthy than it is about ability.

Sometimes, we look at how our best efforts were received and assume that the negative outcomes bear testament to the value that we have to offer.

We then find reason to withhold our contribution in future without pausing to consider that perhaps we invested our efforts in someone who wasn’t ready to value what we shared.

But, it’s never that simple, is it?

Often, we continue to invest because we believe in the untapped beauty or value that we see in them.

It is that belief that anchors us in the ‘if only’ and ‘what if’ scenarios that play out in our heads, while blinding our hearts from the beauty that awaits if only we invested our efforts more wisely.

At such times, we must look to those who see our beauty, rather than fixating on those who deny their own.

It’s the only way to break the cycle that diminishes our contribution towards creating joy in our lives, and in the lives of those around us.

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