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Toxic blah blah
The belief that people are toxic is self-serving. The belief that parents are toxic is a sign of ingratitude. The belief that others are not allowed to change how they behave towards you when you don’t honour what is important to them is entitlement. The belief that what is important to us is more important…
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Deluded confidence
We treat others the way that we treat ourselves. If you struggle to understand what drives the emotional currents that you experience within yourself, look at the feedback that you’re receiving from those who stand to gain nothing from your downfall. Remember: The most important feedback is non-verbal. When we hold ourselves accountable for what…
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The victim-hood of self-loathing
No good deed goes unpunished. I was reminded of this in recent days when the bitterness of a self-loathing human distracted me from what is important about life. It’s not the bitterness that was jarring. It’s the intensity, and the immensity of the self-loathing that has become the battle cry of too many that jarred…
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You’re human. Be human.
We need to be careful with subscribing to a victim mindset. Any form of abuse leaves emotional scars. But that doesn’t mean it breaks us. Nor does it mean that it’s impossible to heal from it. Don’t believe everything you read. No human is broken. And every mind can be healed. When we convince ourselves…
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Honour yourself
Self-respect is more about who you want to be, rather than what you are willing to tolerate. Claiming your space while diminishing the contribution of others in your life is not self-respect, it’s unintended ingratitude. Self-respect is reflected in how you hold yourself accountable for the impact of your actions on others, and not just…
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Stop judging. Be human.
⚠️ TRIGGER WARNING This meme showed up on my timeline earlier and highlighted everything that is wrong with the way in which we treat each other. There are a few terms that I generally disagree with (sometimes very strongly) if used to describe people. These terms include broken, damaged, toxic, and basically anything that reduces…
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Do you see you?
Life conditions us to look at what we’re getting, rather than what is given. That means that we focus on what we’re giving, and not what others are receiving from us. That’s how we end up misinterpreting the signals that we get from them, while they also misinterpret the signals that they get from us.…
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Look back with understanding
When you don’t have a gentle hand to guide you, or an understanding structure to support you, life will be shaped through trial and error. In the same way that we can’t give what we don’t have, nor can others offer us what they don’t have – no matter how much we need it from…
