The shame that we carry within us about what we believe is lacking about ourselves, sometimes causes us to reject those who embrace us despite knowing the worst side of us.But because we reject that part of who we are, and are not willing to see our humanness attaching shame to it, we try to [...]
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Ingratitude breeds ingratitude
When we're ungrateful for who we are,When we deny any good in ourselves that others may see,When we ignore our beauty because there may exist some ugly,We protect ourselves from attachment to anything wholesome or beautiful in life.Our need for such protection is a deeply ingrained fear about never being good enough.Not good enough for [...]
To be…
Much of life is wasted in the time spent considering if we should or shouldn't do that thing that we're passionate about.That consideration is most often based on our doubts about what others will think, and rarely because we doubt the value of doing it.Sometimes, we persevere and find the courage within ourselves to follow [...]
Don’t dance with the devil
The devil lives in our doubts, and our demons thrive in our fears.What we take from life leaves us filled with hope, or ridden with fear.But because it's what we take from it that matters, we can always revisit a memory or an experience and find something more wholesome to take from it. While we [...]
Master patience
Remembering to hold on to hope, and to abandon my expectations of others has always been my saving grace for my sanity and my dignity.Expectations, whether legitimate or not, are rooted in a sense of entitlement to receive what we need from others.Expectations are key to a healthy relationship, because when we can trust another [...]
Destroying the one we love
When we look at ourselves with harshness or pity, we find reason to protect ourselves and others from what we see.We convince ourselves that we are a burden or a curse to those who deserve better than what we have to offer.Or, we convince ourselves that we won't be able to bear them leaving, so [...]