Are you there for you?

We're more inclined to recognise the needs of the weak, than we are of the strong.Without meaning to, we diminish the humanness of those who persevere without complaint, because they often make it look so easy.When we're the strong ones persevering without complaint, we risk diminishing our own humanness as well, because we become defined [...]

Destroying peace to find peace

Rage is a destructive demand for significance when we believe that who we are is not enough to be important to those we love.The anger that spurs on the rage is a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from becoming invisible.We try, in our own little futile ways, to be enough without being able to express [...]

Honourable destruction

When honour is confused with social standing, abuse becomes an acceptable form of saving face.Beyond considerations of family honour, this toxic cultural practice convinces the individual that infidelity becomes excusable because divorce is deplorable.It convinces the brute of the justification of their rage when their partner rejects dehumanising practices by their in-laws.It replaces ideals of [...]