Ingratitude breeds ingratitude

When we're ungrateful for who we are,When we deny any good in ourselves that others may see,When we ignore our beauty because there may exist some ugly,We protect ourselves from attachment to anything wholesome or beautiful in life.Our need for such protection is a deeply ingrained fear about never being good enough.Not good enough for [...]

It starts and ends with gratitude

Many struggle with achieving a sense of fulfilment in their lives because they have yet to appreciate, with sincerity, the value that they hold within themselves.We only make ourselves truly available in a relationship, romantic or otherwise, if we believe that who we are will be valued by others.The irony is that gratitude for who [...]

Farewell, it wasn’t fun

Goodbye to a year that has defined new depths of beauty and pain, and left its mark somewhere adrift between the two, leaving an ambivalence of hope and hopelessness, where once there was certainty.Nothing changes after midnight tonight. But the token of 2021 may give some hope, while the rest brace themselves for a continuation [...]

Surrender to servitude

We all want to be significant because of who we are. This is what defines our place or sense of belonging in this world. When we find reason to believe that we are not enough, we convince ourselves that we will only ever be valued for what we can do. That's when we stop trying [...]

The gratitude paradox

Gratitude is a result of appreciating the absence of something.That absence doesn't have to be experienced, it can also be observed.All that is needed is an event or incident that inspires the realisation of what life would be like without the value that we obtain from something. Occasionally it's from someone.It is our aversion to [...]

Gratitude before regret

It's impossible to be grateful for a blessing that you don't acknowledge.Like believing that we're entitled to certain outcomes because of our effort or contribution.Or believing that we're entitled to be treated a certain way because we believe we're a good person.Whether those entitlements are true is not the issue.The issue is that we are [...]