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A destined misery…or is it?
Are you sightseeing while wishing that what you see could be your reality? Most often, it is our belief in what we deserve that limits us more than what we actually deserve or are capable of achieving. In fact, considering what we deserve or don’t deserve is a distraction most likely grounded in self-pity or…
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Judging self into misery
When we internalise our struggle to the point of believing it to be so unique that it cannot possibly be grasped by anyone else, we give it a power of magnitude beyond the experience itself. Misery intensifies the more we dwell on it. When we live inside our heads, we convince ourselves that our struggle…
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Your dignity is yours to claim
Did you notice how some people, when faced with soul destroying realities, are still dignified in how they rise above it. If you wait for your aggressor or abuser to treat you with dignity before you find reason to respect yourself, you’re doing life back to front. Expecting recognition of your humanness from the world…
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With whom are you competing?
Who are you really competing with in life? The only person you should be competing with is the one you were yesterday! The most common limiting belief that I encounter in others is the belief that they’re not as good as others. The way I encounter this within myself is when I question whether I’m…
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Every mind can be healed
TRIGGER WARNING: If you prefer a victim mindset, don’t read further. This is an extremely important reminder given the horribly unhealthy mindset that this meme encourages. There is no such thing as a broken mind. There is a struggling human, and there is good reason to feel duress, even debilitating duress. Understanding the reasons for…
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Defending myself into misery
Defensiveness is driven by a belief that you’re under attack. Hence the need to defend ourselves when someone tries to correct us. The defensive response on our part confirms that we assume their intention to be other than genuine concern for what we’re experiencing. We also assume that we must be right to feel a…
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Do you remember you?
Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the hopelessness of others. Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the failed expectations of life. And sometimes, we lose ourselves because we thought it was our failings that earned us pain, while oblivious to the fact that it was in fact our success that threatened the ones we loved. In these,…
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Where is your humanity?
Taking pride in the colour of your skin or ethnicity distracts you from your humanity. Our humanness, our gentleness, our inclination towards kindness – these are all part of our natural state. We lose it when our need to be associated with significance or superiority distracts us from this, and replaces it with the fear…
