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You’re human. Be human.
We need to be careful with subscribing to a victim mindset. Any form of abuse leaves emotional scars. But that doesn’t mean it breaks us. Nor does it mean that it’s impossible to heal from it. Don’t believe everything you read. No human is broken. And every mind can be healed. When we convince ourselves…
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Divinely obnoxious?
Godliness is like humility. It is lost when we actively pursue it. Living by the doctrine to which you subscribe is infinitely more important than preaching it. People learn from how you treat them, not from how you chastise them. Judging the faith of another reveals the cracks in your self-worth more than it offers…
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You cannot make them rise
I’ve seen, and experienced first hand, the disaster that awaits when we convince ourselves that the demons that others deal with is our responsibility to resolve. Being kind, compassionate, and even understanding does not mean that we must own the decisions that others have made, especially when those decisions include them choosing to hold on…
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The meandering twists of fate
Betrayal is not always a result of harsh words, lies, or cruel action. We’re often so focused on what we’re not getting from others, that we don’t pause to consider what they may not be getting from us either. The deepest cuts are those that are inflicted when we trust someone to be there, but…
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Surviving sucks
I see too many people take pride in being a survivor, which in itself is not the biggest problem. The problem arises when that act of survival defines you for the rest of your life. When a traumatic event, or an abusive relationship, defines you beyond the immediate impact of experiencing it, you keep it…
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A destined misery…or is it?
Are you sightseeing while wishing that what you see could be your reality? Most often, it is our belief in what we deserve that limits us more than what we actually deserve or are capable of achieving. In fact, considering what we deserve or don’t deserve is a distraction most likely grounded in self-pity or…
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Judging self into misery
When we internalise our struggle to the point of believing it to be so unique that it cannot possibly be grasped by anyone else, we give it a power of magnitude beyond the experience itself. Misery intensifies the more we dwell on it. When we live inside our heads, we convince ourselves that our struggle…
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Your dignity is yours to claim
Did you notice how some people, when faced with soul destroying realities, are still dignified in how they rise above it. If you wait for your aggressor or abuser to treat you with dignity before you find reason to respect yourself, you’re doing life back to front. Expecting recognition of your humanness from the world…
