Soul food doesn’t feed the ego

Be careful about advice that makes you feel good but doesn't resolve anything.Things that make us feel good either provides us with an emotional high and feeds our ego, or with a spiritual high and feeds our soul.When we strike a healthy balance between the two, we find peace.So, be careful of people that only [...]

Elusive peace…

Peace...that elusive mist that needs to enshroud everything.Its absence creates the need to change the circumstances of our lives, so that we leave no space for nothing, needing every space to be filled with something. Some look to fill those spaces with trinkets and tokens.Others look to fill it with purposeful endeavours.But central to both, [...]

Be what you need

In a world that is demanding attention all the time, it's easy to get caught up in what we need from others while ignoring what they need from us.Our humanness is often celebrated for ourselves, but set aside in our expectations from others.We all need sympathy and compassion, but are hesitant to give others the [...]

Master patience

Remembering to hold on to hope, and to abandon my expectations of others has always been my saving grace for my sanity and my dignity.Expectations, whether legitimate or not, are rooted in a sense of entitlement to receive what we need from others.Expectations are key to a healthy relationship, because when we can trust another [...]

Destroying the one we love

When we look at ourselves with harshness or pity, we find reason to protect ourselves and others from what we see.We convince ourselves that we are a burden or a curse to those who deserve better than what we have to offer.Or, we convince ourselves that we won't be able to bear them leaving, so [...]

Claim your humanness

My daughter looked quite distressed when she asked me this question over the weekend."What drives people to be so cruel to animals, like skinning them alive, or abusing them for profits?"The first thought that came to mind was this. We only lose our humanity when we feel less than human.The truth is, we only lose [...]