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Afraid to hope
If fear is what shapes your view of what lies ahead, you’re focused on everything that could go wrong because of what went wrong before. That may seem like a natural response to protect ourselves from being hurt or betrayed again, but it also means that we’re focusing on everything that appears as a risk.…
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Let’s exchange needs
Men complain about lack of intimacy and women complain about emotional unavailability. Sometimes, the roles are reversed, but generally, these are the two most common issues that couples face in a relationship. Problem is, neither is the problem that needs to be solved. We’re naturally more emotionally available in spaces where we feel seen or…
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To me… From me…
This may seem vain, but I’ve been wanting to do this in my copy of my first book since I first published it. And today, sitting and reading through it to remind myself of some of that advice that I give others but don’t use, it felt like the right time to finally acknowledge me.…
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Avoiding life is waiting for death
Sometimes, avoiding drama seems like the only possibility of experiencing peace. But, that’s like saying that as long as we’re not sad, we must be happy. We know that’s not true. The absence of unpleasant events in our life may give us reason to be grateful for not having them, but it doesn’t mean that…
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To be loved
To be seen… Beyond the facade. To have the essence of who we are, known to those we trust and hold dear. To be heard… Not only when we cry out, but also when we speak gently of the troubles in our heart. To be loved… For more than how we make others feel, but…
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Torturous love
And so it is…love and torture have always been stablemates. Sometimes, without warning, someone enters your life and challenges every assumption that you ever made about what’s possible. What you thought you deserved was limited to what you were capable of achieving up to that point, and maybe just a quiet desire to acquire some…
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Dream a little dream…
In a world of cynics, it’s easy to lose sight of the power that you have to turn your dreams into reality. Your efforts become more daunting when faced with an endless barrage of naysayers who only see your potential through their own fears. Sincere advisors are often driven by fear, and thus focus on…
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Looking a gift horse in the mouth
When we’re driven by aesthetics and appearances, social standing becomes more important than substance or authenticity. We lose ourselves to the way we want to be perceived, rather than what we want to create. We grow defined by how others treat us, or how well we can hide our flaws. We pursue all the right…
