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Who’s responsible for your joy?
Do you enjoy being held responsible for how someone else feels about themselves? When they feel good and attribute that to us, we feel good. But does it feel good when they blame us for their self-loathing, or their misery? People who willingly accept responsibility for how you feel about yourself prevent you from owning…
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Who defines your behaviour?
Understanding can only result from sincere interest in what someone is going through. When we try to advise without first seeking to understand, we’re judging, rather than supporting. We’re dictating, rather than uplifting. Doing for others what you would have done unto you is never more true than in that moment when you find someone…
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Who cares?
How often do you indulge in self-care because you truly value yourself, versus doing it because you have no reason to believe that anyone else cares enough to do it for you? Just because we believe we’re worth it, doesn’t mean that we treat ourselves kindly out of gratitude for who we are. Self-care that…
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Pitying yourself because of your self-pity
When we realise the impact that our self-pity has on those around us, we’ll discover that we’re part of the cycle that leads to us feeling sorry for ourselves. Focusing on what we don’t have distracts us from all the opportunities that are possible with what we do have. Similarly, focusing on who we are…
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When gratitude becomes a transaction
When we lack gratitude for who we are but wish to feel grateful, we surround ourselves with things and people who don’t expect more from us than we expect from ourselves. To do this, we must push away those who believe that we’re capable of more. Focusing on proving your gratitude, to yourself and to…
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Are you really passionate?
They say that there is no limit to what a man can do if he doesn’t care who gets the credit for it. Right there is the reason why most of us don’t achieve our dreams. We chase validation more than we pursue excellence. When we don’t get that validation, we give up our dreams…
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A hard heart beats its owner
We become defined by what we have when we lack substance in who we are. We offer material comfort and chase material gains when connecting with the human, both in ourselves and in others, seems like a stretch too far. What we think of ourselves is what we surround ourselves with. The one who loves…
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Ingratitude, the illegitimate child of self-loathing
When you judge yourself harshly, you lose sight of the good that you’re achieving. That you judge yourself at all is an indulgence in breaking yourself down, rather than lifting yourself up. That’s why those who judge themselves most, are also most dependent on others treating them well before they feel significant, even if their…
