Who’s responsible for your joy?

Do you enjoy being held responsible for how someone else feels about themselves?

When they feel good and attribute that to us, we feel good.

But does it feel good when they blame us for their self-loathing, or their misery?

People who willingly accept responsibility for how you feel about yourself prevent you from owning your self-worth.

As long as you have reason to blame someone else about how you feel about yourself, you have no reason to grow beyond that state that you’re in.

You’ll place your life on hold, and you’ll grow bitter waiting for them to prove to you that you’re worth it, or that your efforts towards them means something to them.

It’s not wrong to look for that gratitude, or even reciprocation, from those you hold dear or invest your time and effort into uplifting.

However, when they don’t return the favour, or even acknowledge your contribution and support, how you feel about yourself remains how you feel about yourself!

It’s when our efforts towards others go unnoticed or unappreciated that our self-worth counts the most.

Disappointment, or even betrayal, is never good reason for self-deprecation.

Self-deprecation, or putting yourself down because of how others treat you, reflects your ingratitude for who you are.

When you do that, you become part of the very way of life that left you feeling like you’re not worth it.

Worse still, when we lose ourselves to what others think of us, we also lose sight of those who may look up to us, or who have rights over us.

That’s how self-loathing feeds the very cycle that weighs us down.

If you still see yourself through everyone else’s eyes, peace will forever be elusive, and life well forever feel burdened.

How you feel about yourself is your responsibility, no matter who steps in to make you feel better about yourself.

The question is, is your opinion of yourself more informed than the opinions that others have of you?

It always starts with you.

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