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Gratitude is not appreciation
Gratitude speaks more to our soul than any gift or trinket, or whispers of endearment. Gratitude is impossible without respect,and respect is impossible without honesty,and honesty is impossible without sincerity,and sincerity is impossible without self-respect,and self-respect is impossible without conviction,and conviction is impossible without self-worth… And so it continues until we realise that expecting gratitude…
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Who’s responsible for your joy?
Do you enjoy being held responsible for how someone else feels about themselves? When they feel good and attribute that to us, we feel good. But does it feel good when they blame us for their self-loathing, or their misery? People who willingly accept responsibility for how you feel about yourself prevent you from owning…
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Your misery is your downfall
We rarely share with the world the conversation that we have with ourselves in our head. Our internal conversations are only shared when we’ve exhausted all avenues in trying to understand why someone important to us could have had reason to treat us so badly. The harsh tones and unwarranted criticism that we try to…
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To me… From me…
This may seem vain, but I’ve been wanting to do this in my copy of my first book since I first published it. And today, sitting and reading through it to remind myself of some of that advice that I give others but don’t use, it felt like the right time to finally acknowledge me.…
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Are you sure you have an attitude of gratitude?
With all the ‘attitude of gratitude’ narratives, I thought it might be helpful to identify when we’re not being as grateful as we think we are. Gratitude for the self is reflected in how you value who you are without a need to diminish the value of others. Sometimes, we convince ourselves that we need…
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Life is nothing without gratitude
Gratitude is only possible if you’re present in the moment you’re in. Fear distracts us from the present moment by reminding us of the past and tainting our experience of the present. It’s when we look for evidence in the present moment of the causes of pain from our past, that we find reason to…
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Ungratefully appreciative
Words that carry good intention but lack conviction, often causes more harm than good. Like expressing appreciation for the blessings that we have, but treating those blessings with disregard because we lack true gratitude for it. The expression of appreciation towards something is the equivalent of a good intention, and nothing more. Gratitude runs much…
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Trading the future for the past
Sometimes, we lose ourselves in the struggle to build the future that we want, while forgetting that it’s a struggle because we’re still living in the past. Our expectations about what opportunities lie ahead, or what we believe we’re capable of achieving, are defined by what we believe to be true about the events that…
