Category: Appreciation

  • Gratitude is not an attitude

    Gratitude is not an attitude

    What would life be like if you maximised every resource and every opportunity to which you have access? What would the quality of your relationships be if you built on everything that works instead of focusing on what’s not working? How would you feel about yourself if you looked at all you’ve overcome instead of…

  • The demon child of ingratitude

    The demon child of ingratitude

    Disrespect only ever becomes an option when we disrespect ourselves. We don’t always disrespect ourselves because life is fluid, demanding different things from us at different times. In those moments when we are expected to be more than we believe we’re capable of, or when we are corrected for something that we do because we…

  • Gratitude is not appreciation

    Gratitude is not appreciation

    Gratitude speaks more to our soul than any gift or trinket, or whispers of endearment. Gratitude is impossible without respect,and respect is impossible without honesty,and honesty is impossible without sincerity,and sincerity is impossible without self-respect,and self-respect is impossible without conviction,and conviction is impossible without self-worth… And so it continues until we realise that expecting gratitude…

  • Who’s responsible for your joy?

    Who’s responsible for your joy?

    Do you enjoy being held responsible for how someone else feels about themselves? When they feel good and attribute that to us, we feel good. But does it feel good when they blame us for their self-loathing, or their misery? People who willingly accept responsibility for how you feel about yourself prevent you from owning…

  • Your misery is your downfall

    Your misery is your downfall

    We rarely share with the world the conversation that we have with ourselves in our head. Our internal conversations are only shared when we’ve exhausted all avenues in trying to understand why someone important to us could have had reason to treat us so badly. The harsh tones and unwarranted criticism that we try to…

  • To me… From me…

    To me… From me…

    This may seem vain, but I’ve been wanting to do this in my copy of my first book since I first published it. And today, sitting and reading through it to remind myself of some of that advice that I give others but don’t use, it felt like the right time to finally acknowledge me.…

  • Are you sure you have an attitude of gratitude?

    Are you sure you have an attitude of gratitude?

    With all the ‘attitude of gratitude’ narratives, I thought it might be helpful to identify when we’re not being as grateful as we think we are. Gratitude for the self is reflected in how you value who you are without a need to diminish the value of others. Sometimes, we convince ourselves that we need…

  • Life is nothing without gratitude

    Life is nothing without gratitude

    Gratitude is only possible if you’re present in the moment you’re in. Fear distracts us from the present moment by reminding us of the past and tainting our experience of the present. It’s when we look for evidence in the present moment of the causes of pain from our past, that we find reason to…