The balance of happiness

Without meaning to, life can become a trading exercise in which we give something with the expectation of receiving something else in return. That’s when it gets complicated. When the assumptions of one or both becomes entangled in the belief that happiness lies in a like-for-like exchange of sentiment or gifts, or perhaps effort. Sometimes,…

The gratitude paradox

Gratitude is a result of appreciating the absence of something. That absence doesn’t have to be experienced, it can also be observed. All that is needed is an event or incident that inspires the realisation of what life would be like without the value that we obtain from something. Occasionally it’s from someone. It is…

Understanding vs Judgement

There are two types of people in this world. Those who appreciate our efforts for trying to achieve good things. And those who ignore our efforts and judge us for failing. The ones who appreciate the effort recognise their own path towards growth, and empathise with the struggle and aspirations of others. This inspires them…

Demand more…of yourself

Unless you believe that you are capable of achieving more, you will always hold on to less. That belief is more about feeling worthy than it is about ability. Sometimes, we look at how our best efforts were received and assume that the negative outcomes bear testament to the value that we have to offer….

Fleeting Thoughts X

If I were to write without restraint, would you see my soul or judge my sanity? Sanity is elusive when it competes with the heart. The heart is not satiated by the intellect, and the intellect cannot reason with the heart. They both swim in their own orbits. Like the sun and the moon, each…

Depression is not an illness

I realise that this is a highly contentious point. But we must recognise the elephant in the room before we are able to deal with it. The myth that depression is an illness causes more harm than the good it’s intended to achieve. Depression is the absence of hope. Preceding that is the saturation of…