We become defined by what we have when we lack substance in who we are.
We offer material comfort and chase material gains when connecting with the human, both in ourselves and in others, seems like a stretch too far.
What we think of ourselves is what we surround ourselves with.
The one who loves the scent of perfume won’t spend their day in the bellows of a blacksmith if they had the option to spend it in the indulgent space of a perfumery.
The reason we avoid people who demand more of our humanness and less of our outward success is because we can’t give what we don’t have.
Therefore, we only give of what we have.
Similarly, we only find what we’re searching for.
If we’re searching for evidence of why who we are is not enough, we’ll find it.
But, in the process, we’ll also lose sight of every bit of evidence that confirms what is enough, or more than enough about who we are.
There is nothing so bad that there is no good in it.
When we focus on the bad, we become selfish and hard-hearted.
Hard-heartedness only ever leads to misery, and self-imposed misery loves company.
That’s why, when our opinions of ourselves is shaped by how others respond to us, or what we don’t have, the only thing left to give is bitterness and anger.
Nothing more. Nothing less.
And then we blame the world for being a cruel place.
The world is what we make of it. And what we see in others is a reflection of how we see ourselves.
It always starts with you.
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A hard heart beats its owner
