Don’t be your own enemy

You undermine yourself when you doubt your ability to accomplish something for no reason other than fear.When you allow the uninformed opinions of others, or their disrespect to define how you feel about yourself, you undermine yourself.When you settle for less because you believe you're unworthy of better, you undermine yourself.Each time you shy away [...]

Destroying the one we love

When we look at ourselves with harshness or pity, we find reason to protect ourselves and others from what we see.We convince ourselves that we are a burden or a curse to those who deserve better than what we have to offer.Or, we convince ourselves that we won't be able to bear them leaving, so [...]

Contaminating the self

Self-worth is contaminated when we try to define it by the way we think others perceive us.Whether their perception is correct or not is irrelevant.The fact that their perception has more sway over our self-worth than our perception of ourselves is what determines the difference between a healthy self esteem, and an unhealthy one.Many struggle [...]

Sabotaging destiny

There are so many memes encouraging gut feelings and instincts to drive or decisions about how to treat others.I wish there would be more making us aware of what creates that feeling in our gut to begin with.The emotion most commonly experienced as a physical sensation is that of fear. And fear, more than anywhere [...]

Don’t choose the hard way

The original Afrikaans saying for this is somewhat more impactful.'Die wat nie will hoor nie, moet voel.'Translated, that means that if you don't want to listen, then you'll feel the pain.While it may have been regularly used as a taunt by teachers and parents towards misbehaving kids, it is totally apt for adults as well.Our [...]

Uniquely you

When trying to fit in feels burdensome or overwhelming, it may be time to consider that you were created for a purpose greater than just imitating the behaviour of others.Recognising the uniqueness of who we are becomes difficult if we spend our lives focused on meeting the expectations of others in the hope that we [...]