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You are your own worst victim
The victim mindset wreaks the most destruction and creates the worst of oppressors. The victim mindset is established when we find ourselves nursing wounds of experiences and betrayals that have long since passed. The victim mindset is nurtured when we are emotionally impacted by the behaviour of those who play no meaningful role in our…
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Do you truly respect yourself?
One of the most important questions you could ever ask yourself in any situation is, ‘Who do you want to be?’ Life is quickly defined or tainted by who we think others deserve us to be. We start out believing, often with good reason, that we need to be a certain way so that we…
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Own your own life first
The causes that we’re afraid to fight in our own lives, we fight through proxy in someone else’s life. When we lack the conviction to apply ourselves to full effect in our own lives, we pacify our conscience by coming to the aid of those whose struggles offer an opportunity for us to find significance…
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Your dignity is yours to claim
Did you notice how some people, when faced with soul destroying realities, are still dignified in how they rise above it. If you wait for your aggressor or abuser to treat you with dignity before you find reason to respect yourself, you’re doing life back to front. Expecting recognition of your humanness from the world…
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The death of critical thinkers
Critical thinking is lost when we strive to belong at all costs. When our need for inclusion overwhelms our objectivity, we give up what we stand for in favour of what the group stands for. If that group is driven by a collective victim mindset, we’ll buy into it while finding strength in being around…
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Master patience
Remembering to hold on to hope, and to abandon my expectations of others has always been my saving grace for my sanity and my dignity. Expectations, whether legitimate or not, are rooted in a sense of entitlement to receive what we need from others. Expectations are key to a healthy relationship, because when we can…
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Perspective rules
Perspective defines our reality. Taking the worst from an experience doesn’t diminish the good that it contains. It simply denies us the benefit that is waiting to be experienced. The opposite being true too. Focusing on the benefit reduces the impact of the bad that we experienced. Maintaining a healthy balance between the two keeps…
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It’s not always about you
The truth is, if you want to matter that much to someone else, shouldn’t they matter equally as much to you? If they do, and you find that they don’t have as much time for you as they used to, or are behaving differently to what you know them to be about, do you claim…