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The meandering twists of fate
Betrayal is not always a result of harsh words, lies, or cruel action. We’re often so focused on what we’re not getting from others, that we don’t pause to consider what they may not be getting from us either. The deepest cuts are those that are inflicted when we trust someone to be there, but…
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A destined misery…or is it?
Are you sightseeing while wishing that what you see could be your reality? Most often, it is our belief in what we deserve that limits us more than what we actually deserve or are capable of achieving. In fact, considering what we deserve or don’t deserve is a distraction most likely grounded in self-pity or…
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Your dignity is yours to claim
Did you notice how some people, when faced with soul destroying realities, are still dignified in how they rise above it. If you wait for your aggressor or abuser to treat you with dignity before you find reason to respect yourself, you’re doing life back to front. Expecting recognition of your humanness from the world…
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Do you remember you?
Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the hopelessness of others. Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the failed expectations of life. And sometimes, we lose ourselves because we thought it was our failings that earned us pain, while oblivious to the fact that it was in fact our success that threatened the ones we loved. In these,…
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Reclaim your worth
Peace is most ravaged when we convince ourselves that we were treated badly by others, or by someone we trusted, because we weren’t good enough for them. A betrayal of trust, no matter how noble the person, reflects cowardice on their part. We only betray the trust that others place in us when we feel…
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Judge, as you would like to be judged
When we behave badly, we pacify ourselves by focusing on what we intended, or why it was understandable for us to behave that way. When others treat us badly, we’re more inclined to assume that it is a true reflection of how little we mean to them, or how malicious they are. The moment we…
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Are you really you?
We often speak of not letting go of our inner child. But, I always wonder why does it have to be something we hold within? Why can’t we embrace the innocence of our childish charms in everything that we do? Or did we take away that permission from ourselves when someone once said, “Act your…
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Are you in an abusive relationship…with you?
It’s women’s day in South Africa. A public holiday dedicated to recognising the value and contribution of women in society. My hope for this day is that we find the gentleness and nurturing spirit innate in women, and we give it an opportunity to thrive in our own lives, regardless of gender. Don’t be your…
