It’s women’s day in South Africa.
A public holiday dedicated to recognising the value and contribution of women in society.
My hope for this day is that we find the gentleness and nurturing spirit innate in women, and we give it an opportunity to thrive in our own lives, regardless of gender.
Don’t be your harshest critic. Be your most sincere one.
We’re often so focused on how others treat us, that we fail to recognise how badly we treat ourselves.
Is the tone of your internal conversation one of understanding and growth, or harsh judgement and fear?
When you have your internal conversation, do you refer to yourself by your name, or do you say ‘You’?
Recognising these simple points will give you important insights into how you see yourself.
Remember that we cannot give what we don’t have, so if you treat yourself harshly, chances are very good that you’re treating others harshly as well.
Always a good time to reflect and correct the path we’re on.
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Tag: reflection
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Are you in an abusive relationship…with you?
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Grow, from unexpected places
If you don’t like what someone has to say about you, make sure you’re not rejecting it because of who’s saying it.
The truth about us is often spoken by our enemies, regardless of their motivation to do so.
Growth is often experienced at the hands of those we hold in contempt.
When you surround yourself with people that make you feel good about who you are, it’s inevitable that the ones to call you out when you’re wrong will be outside of that circle.
But that’s where the greatest potential for growth lies.
Growth is possible with those who see our actions for what they are, not for what it is within the context of how they know us to be.
As sincere and well-meaning as loved ones can be, they’re not always good for growth because their affection or unwavering loyalty prevents them from seeing our blind spots.
Try to maintain a healthy balance of critics in your life.
Photo credit: Naadirah Ismail (using my awesome Huawei P20 Pro)
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Be true about seeking truth
If you’re sincere about seeking the truth, you won’t be distracted by the source or tone through which it arrives.
The truth is only harsh if you’re not willing to accept it.
The harshness enters when we need to hear something more palatable or pleasant about ourselves because we need the validation that says that we’re not so bad.
But that’s the problem right there.
We use the truth to judge ourselves instead of grow, that’s why it feels harsh.
If we embrace it, we embrace growth, and growth is never bad, except for the people that you sometimes leave behind because they don’t want to grow with you.
Don’t let that stop you, because when they do decide to grow on their own, they’ll leave you behind.
That’s why you need to own your life, and create opportunities for others to own theirs.
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Discover your why
Flipped open the book to a random page and found this.
I don’t think there is anything that drives us towards anger or happiness more than this single principle.
Understanding it within the context of our lives is crucial towards achieving fulfilment in our relationships.
“We must believe that we matter, that our presence is of consequence to the outcome of a greater good, or else we wither away in isolation or irrelevance.”
This is at the heart of misery and joy.
The fear of being inconsequential is what drives both, the most passionate embrace and the most despicable behaviour.
If you don’t understand how this drives or affects you, you’ll be prone to emotional highs and lows that will leave you exhausted or depressed without knowing why.
Reach out via my website at zaidismail.com or on WhatsApp at +27836599183, and let’s figure out your why…
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Rediscover who you are
The journey of rediscovery of the self is the greatest joy of all.
It shakes off the cobwebs that life tends to accumulate, and breaks the chains that we’ve used to tether ourselves to past experiences.Rediscover who you really are, so that you can shake off the debris that you accumulated through the years with each toxic character that convinced you that you were someone you’re not.
Your true self is buried beneath the clutter and wounds of the past.
The risk of coping with failure or betrayal is that our act of coping grows to define who we think we are.
But that’s when we lose sight of who we were before that moment.
The only way to move beyond it is to recognise that coping is only needed as long as we’re still holding on to the hurt or the disappointment of what could’ve been, but didn’t happen.
Let go of it, and the joy you experienced before that defining moment will return.
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The silent ones
True misery doesn’t love company.
It decays the soul in silence.
When someone is complaining, it’s because they still have hope that someone cares enough to listen or respond.
Or even to empathise.
When they give up on these three things, they go silent because they have grown to accept that no one else cares, or understands the state that they’re in.
Too often we see their silence and assume it to be acceptance of their struggles or challenges, meanwhile it often symbolises the slow death of dreams, hopes, and ultimately, a life.
Silence is the silent killer, more than rage.
Listen with both ears and your heart.
Pay attention to the silent ones.
Your noise of ingratitude may just be drowning out their silence of pain.
Find the balance between living loud and loving sincerely.
The one without the other will smother people closest to you.
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Take stock, and reconnect
Stepping back and taking stock requires more than just an arrest of the ego.
It requires a desire to return to a point of sincerity and authenticity in our lives when we were filled with hope about the future, after finding ourselves filled with a longing for the past instead.
Arresting the ego becomes easier if we believe that what we stand to gain is more valuable than having to swallow our pride.
But sometimes, pride is all that defines us.
If you find yourself in that space, know that you’ve abandoned your true self in favour of how you wish to be perceived by others.
Sometimes, pride pushes us to follow through on a bad decision because it sucks to give our enemies something to mock us about.
You know what sucks more?
Living a crappy life because you didn’t want to give your enemies a single moment to mock a bad decision.
Own Your Shit. Own Your Life.
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Failure is not a group sport
When you find reason to sit back and lick the wounds of your ego, remember this.
No one will ever be as invested in your success as you are.
The sooner you own your life, the sooner you’ll be able to enrich the lives of those around you.
It’s easier to fail collectively, than to fail alone.
Setting out on a path of your own demands a level of courage and conviction that is erased from your life when you live according to the whims and weaknesses of those around you.
Too often we lack the courage to stand strong when we go against the grain, and then blame family or society for not supporting us in our wishes to change the world.
Turn your wishes into action or else accept that you are defined by your fears and not your convictions.
Resisting this reality will negatively affect your health and your happiness.
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