Tag: emotionalmaturity

  • Embrace the whole of you

    Embrace the whole of you

    We often discard good advice because we don’t like the source.

    Sometimes it’s because we don’t want to appear weak in front of them, and other times it’s because we are trying to save face after having treated them badly.

    Emotional maturity is achieved when we are willing to learn from our enemies and loved ones alike.

    It’s achieved when we are more focused on growth, than we are on how we may appear to others.

    Emotional maturity is key to living with authenticity, and serving with conviction.

    But, emotional maturity is not something that you can pursue directly. It is an outcome.

    What we need to pursue directly is connecting with the gratitude of who we are, while seeking understanding of why they are who they are.

    We must seek to understand the value of every good quality, positive trait, and also every flaw, while embracing how each of these contribute towards making up the whole of who we are as a human being.

    Emotional maturity and quality of life, and relationships, follow from there.

    Any other approach is not sustainable, because every other approach will be dependent on how others treat us, before we will be able to show up as our best selves in that moment.

    Own Your Life. If not, someone else will.

  • Discover your why

    Discover your why

    Flipped open the book to a random page and found this.

    I don’t think there is anything that drives us towards anger or happiness more than this single principle.

    Understanding it within the context of our lives is crucial towards achieving fulfilment in our relationships.

    “We must believe that we matter, that our presence is of consequence to the outcome of a greater good, or else we wither away in isolation or irrelevance.”

    This is at the heart of misery and joy.

    The fear of being inconsequential is what drives both, the most passionate embrace and the most despicable behaviour.

    If you don’t understand how this drives or affects you, you’ll be prone to emotional highs and lows that will leave you exhausted or depressed without knowing why.

    Reach out via my website at zaidismail.com or on WhatsApp at +27836599183, and let’s figure out your why…
    .
    Image : page 37 of Own Your Sh!t

    Own Your Sh!t – PreviewDownload

  • Misery is the thief of time

    Misery is the thief of time

    Anything that requires a concerted effort is exhausting…like being miserable or morbid…it demands that we suppress any inclination to find joy or happiness in simple things.

    Can anyone guess why we would do this? 🤔

    Joy is what we give up when we hold on to misery.

    Don’t become so distracted by how you were betrayed or abused by others that you grow fixated on wanting to see them get their own back while putting your own joy on hold.

    Remember that it took a specific event to make you feel miserable, but up to that point joy came naturally.

    This means that our natural state is one of joyfulness, and it also means that we have to put in a lot of effort to prevent ourselves from experiencing joy.

    That’s why misery and depression is so exhausting.

    It’s not just a lack of motivation, it is an energy thief.

    Invest your life in moments that uplift others and yourself, not in waiting for revenge or karma to come around.

    P. S. At the time of originally posting this in 2019, I was thinking of making the title for my book The Book of Mindfulness. But I eventually decided on Own Your Shit. You can order your copy today from my website at zaidismail.com or on Amazon and Kindle.