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Who’s draining your joy?
Avoidance requires distractions, and distractions are exhausting. We don’t always avoid the truth because we want to. In fact, most often, it’s because we’re persisting in what we believe to be true that causes us to ignore the reality that we’re facing. Like investing in someone who is at war with themselves. Or expecting opportunities […]
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Own your misery
Miserable are the ones who compete with their companions, and then go searching for companionship among those that will ruin them. Self-pity and self-loathing are the marks of ingratitude that turn your greatest supporters into your greatest distractions. All because you think that they see the inadequacy and shame with which you view yourself. That’s […]
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Self-pity is never a recommendation
When we go out searching for safe spaces in which to grow, we’re more invested in hiding the shame that we feel about ourselves, than we are in growing. Rather than focusing on pushing ourselves into spaces that are uncomfortable, we need to focus on why we feel such shame to begin with. Shame doesn’t […]
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Do you remember you?
Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the hopelessness of others. Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the failed expectations of life. And sometimes, we lose ourselves because we thought it was our failings that earned us pain, while oblivious to the fact that it was in fact our success that threatened the ones we loved. In these, […]
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Where is your humanity?
Taking pride in the colour of your skin or ethnicity distracts you from your humanity. Our humanness, our gentleness, our inclination towards kindness – these are all part of our natural state. We lose it when our need to be associated with significance or superiority distracts us from this, and replaces it with the fear […]
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Are you there for you?
We’re more inclined to recognise the needs of the weak, than we are of the strong. Without meaning to, we diminish the humanness of those who persevere without complaint, because they often make it look so easy. When we’re the strong ones persevering without complaint, we risk diminishing our own humanness as well, because we […]
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Do you matter to you?
To be of consequence, or to feel significant, lies at the heart of our inspiration to accomplish anything. When we connect with conviction to the significance of who we are, and what value we add to the lives of others, we achieve a sense of peace and contentment. But, when we doubt this, we set […]
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A path to insanity
We work with the assumption that our partners and our children share the same values that we try to uphold in our lives. This is rarely true. While we may share the same frame of reference or even the same cultural norms, values are much more personal, and therefore unique. Our personal value systems are […]
