Be gentle

Chances are very good that your harshness or cruelty is directed at the wrong person.Unfortunately, you'll only realise this after the damage is done. Cruelty, like anger, is most often expressed to those weaker than us, even though we experience it at the hands of those stronger than us.Sadly, it is paid forward more often [...]

Be gentle…to you

When you treat the vulnerable or the gentle ones with contempt, you create the same monsters that made you.The moment that we realise what we assume to be our nature is in fact a product of our upbringing, we'll be able to make conscious decisions about who we want to be.Sometimes, we place so much [...]

Empathise

Empathy is expressed when we desire for others what we wish to have for ourselves.Sometimes, it's something we have, and we hope that others will be able to enjoy the same value and benefit that we enjoy from it.Sometimes, it's what we don't have, yet we hope that we may be able to contribute towards [...]

Judge me fairly

How often do we build pedestals for people and then judge them for sitting on it?Judgement is inevitable. It's how we make sense of our world.But are we aware of the basis of our judgement?When we judge anyone or anything, it's based on our past experiences with troubled souls, and not on the present moment.The [...]

Expecting hope

Expectations are simply hopes with a sense of entitlement.The reason for our entitlement to the fulfilment of our hopes are many. Most often, they're based on what we contributed towards others.Sometimes we want that contribution reciprocated because we don't want to allow others to treat us unfairly, or to take us for granted.But sometimes, we [...]

The forgotten village idiot

This essay has been playing on my mind a lot lately.Covid-19 has revealed the true nature of many, which only served to reinforce this notion.Who puts a smile on the face of the village idiot?The saddest part of this essay is that most who read the title thought it to be humorous.From my book The [...]