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Judge as you wish to be judged
We speak from a position of privilege when we judge the failures of others within the context of what is possible for us. Even something as simple as the resolve we have, or the choices we made to rise above a challenge, comes from a place of assuming that our emotional resilience is the same…
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Emotional wellbeing, not mental health
It is only through our internal wars that we lose sight of reality. The culture of labeling people dehumanises the very human that is struggling with their humanness. We focus on our demons so intently, that we become defined by them, bearing them patiently in quiet shame, protecting ourselves from being exposed for what we…
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But is it abuse?
If the widespread belief that silent treatment is emotional abuse is to be accepted, then we must also consider the form of abuse that its counter behaviour imposes. Silent treatment is not an assault on the senses and it doesn’t demand a response. The impact on the recipient of silent treatment is therefore dependent on…
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Dehumanising the human
Don’t become so fixated on labelling yours, or the behaviour of others, that you lose sight of the human struggle behind that behaviour. Labels make it easier for us to deal with stuff. The moment we give it a name, we can manage our expectations around it. This is fine when it comes to abstract…
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The burden of self-loathing
Allow me to explain… “I trust more easily those who expose the struggles of their lives, rather than those who live a life of pretend.” Our need to pretend is evidence of self-loathing. “But not those who present their struggles to justify their shortcomings.” Too many preempt being judged harshly about what they know they’re…
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Empathise
Empathy is expressed when we desire for others what we wish to have for ourselves. Sometimes, it’s something we have, and we hope that others will be able to enjoy the same value and benefit that we enjoy from it. Sometimes, it’s what we don’t have, yet we hope that we may be able to…
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To Breathe Again
There are few things more exhausting than the plague of insincerity from those that find a constant need to explain their drama and their dreams under the pretense of seeking sincere advice to overcome their hurdles. Soliciting advice while professing not to have the answers ourselves, then discarding that advice in favour of taking the…
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Dramatic Trauma
I’ve always been curious about the impact of our perceptions on the reality we seem to contend with. This became even more prominent in a recent discussion regarding the way in which we perceive or interpret various experiences and how it subsequently affects us. One thing I realised is that I don’t recall ever looking…
