Allow me to explain…
“I trust more easily those who expose the struggles of their lives, rather than those who live a life of pretend.”
Our need to pretend is evidence of self-loathing.
“But not those who present their struggles to justify their shortcomings.”
Too many preempt being judged harshly about what they know they’re lacking in their conduct, and present their struggles to offer an excuse for why they are unable to be better than who they are.
This is further evidence of self-loathing.
“Such struggles are filtered versions of the truth to present a facade to win favour or sympathy.”
Be weary of those who wear their hearts on their sleeves. They will expect you to honour their struggles rather than to uplift them from that space.
“If we lie about our life, how can we be trusted about anything else?”
Those who present their lives to be something other than what it evidently is, are ashamed of who they are.
Again, self-loathing is what drives their behaviour.
When you engage with such people, or if you are doing some of this, the problem to be solved is not one of honesty or authenticity.
The problem to be solved is one of acceptance and understanding to reconnect with the human that feels less than human.
To reconnect with the human who lost sight of their value, rather than to correct their behaviour.
And if you can’t connect despite your best efforts, then remain silent and walk away.
Your harsh criticism or judgment, no matter how well-intentioned, will further beat down the one who is already beating themselves up.
Be kind. Be understanding. Be human.
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The burden of self-loathing
