Seek understanding. Always.

If you find yourself judging, more than understanding, you're filled with fear about the future. Not hope.Judgement is not always harsh. But, judgement is always focused on an external standard that we think others respect.External standards give us comfort because we don't run the risk of making a bad decision by ourselves. If things don't [...]

Are you grateful for you?

Whenever asked about gratitude, the inevitable response is one that is focused on everything we have around us.Sometimes, we consider our health and our skills.At other times we recognise the value of things not being as bad as they could have been.And we convince ourselves that this is being grateful.But how often do we stop [...]

Don’t be your own enemy

You undermine yourself when you doubt your ability to accomplish something for no reason other than fear.When you allow the uninformed opinions of others, or their disrespect to define how you feel about yourself, you undermine yourself.When you settle for less because you believe you're unworthy of better, you undermine yourself.Each time you shy away [...]

Be what you need

In a world that is demanding attention all the time, it's easy to get caught up in what we need from others while ignoring what they need from us.Our humanness is often celebrated for ourselves, but set aside in our expectations from others.We all need sympathy and compassion, but are hesitant to give others the [...]

Farewell, it wasn’t fun

Goodbye to a year that has defined new depths of beauty and pain, and left its mark somewhere adrift between the two, leaving an ambivalence of hope and hopelessness, where once there was certainty.Nothing changes after midnight tonight. But the token of 2021 may give some hope, while the rest brace themselves for a continuation [...]

Be gentle…to you

When you treat the vulnerable or the gentle ones with contempt, you create the same monsters that made you.The moment that we realise what we assume to be our nature is in fact a product of our upbringing, we'll be able to make conscious decisions about who we want to be.Sometimes, we place so much [...]