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Reclaim your worth
Peace is most ravaged when we convince ourselves that we were treated badly by others, or by someone we trusted, because we weren’t good enough for them. A betrayal of trust, no matter how noble the person, reflects cowardice on their part. We only betray the trust that others place in us when we feel…
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A moment of trust
It’s impossible to go through life without trusting others. But, if we’re not careful, the trust that we invest in others could result in consequences that create a struggle for the rest of our lives. Most often, when choosing a partner, we focus on how trustworthy they are in the present circumstances, but have no…
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Dehumanising the human
Don’t become so fixated on labelling yours, or the behaviour of others, that you lose sight of the human struggle behind that behaviour. Labels make it easier for us to deal with stuff. The moment we give it a name, we can manage our expectations around it. This is fine when it comes to abstract…
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More ways to destroy trust…
Our consideration of trust is often limited to promises or follow through on something that was clearly agreed with another. However, trust is broken in many ways, most of which are subtle and often unintended. It’s these subtle breaches that leave us seething with anger or raging with tears while not knowing how to connect…
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Destroying the one we love
When we look at ourselves with harshness or pity, we find reason to protect ourselves and others from what we see. We convince ourselves that we are a burden or a curse to those who deserve better than what we have to offer. Or, we convince ourselves that we won’t be able to bear them…
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A sacred trust
Mark Twain once said something about there being two days that are important in your life. The day you’re born, and the day you find out why. I think there’s a third day that matters as much as the other two. The day you realise that your why only matters to you, and no one…
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A silent betrayal
The betrayal of trust is not always due to blatant acts of dishonesty. Most often, it’s the silence or the restraint from a loved one when their words or their embrace is most needed. It’s the shrug when we reach out to them or offer them support, or the deliberate obliviousness when we express our…