Enabling our oppressors

We only give others permission to disrespect us when we disrespect ourselves first.Disrespect of the self takes many shapes and forms including compromising our values for personal gain, accepting abuse from fear of abandonment, restraining our contribution from fear of rejection, and more.When treating ourselves with disrespect becomes the norm, accepting disrespect becomes the theme [...]

To give up silently

"When you give up on something, it becomes a weighty silence that you carry within you for the rest of your life.It's a quiet acceptance that what once was the centre of your being will never be a part of your being again.The silence is the only gesture that will honour such loss, such surrender.And [...]

It starts and ends with gratitude

Many struggle with achieving a sense of fulfilment in their lives because they have yet to appreciate, with sincerity, the value that they hold within themselves.We only make ourselves truly available in a relationship, romantic or otherwise, if we believe that who we are will be valued by others.The irony is that gratitude for who [...]

This is going to hurt

Another excerpt from a manuscript slowly taking shape in my head. From the sequel to my novel, this is Taqdeer: A dance with destiny.In this scene, the main character, Zayd, once more finds himself faced with the betrayal of one close to him, but it's not enough to deter him from remaining defiant against the [...]

The twins of love and pain

We see in the world around us that which occupies the most space in our hearts.When our hearts are filled with love and affection, we find no place for hate or bitterness.When we hold space in our life for justice for past oppression, we prevent that space from being filled with the love that we [...]

Choose your company…wisely

Choose your company carefully.The peace of mind and sense of belonging for which you yearn could easily turn out to be the reason for your anguish.There is rarely a day that passes without me reading or hearing about someone who invested years, if not decades of their life, to people who were not invested in [...]