Collective guilt, collective malice

One of the trappings of the victim head space is that it convinces us to surround ourselves with those who will understand why we're weak, or why we behave badly, because they themselves struggle with similar demons.Our need to avoid rejection or to feel validated causes us more harm than good.The comfort that we get... Continue Reading →

Who’s doing you in?

This is a phenomenon that I encountered regularly in the corporate world.When your performance appraisal is reviewed against your targets only, but all mitigating circumstances are dismissed, understand that they're not interested in rating your performance, they're interested in finding someone to blame for their lack of competence, or lack of support.If, however, you find... Continue Reading →

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