One of the trappings of the victim head space is that it convinces us to surround ourselves with those who will understand why we’re weak, or why we behave badly, because they themselves struggle with similar demons.
Our need to avoid rejection or to feel validated causes us more harm than good.
The comfort that we get from that is fleeting, while what is important to us is neglected.
It’s like placing a band aid over a festering wound to prevent chafing.
It may offer a very brief comfort, but the wound eventually turns septic and results in long term pain.
It’s for this reason that we avoid sincere advisors who push us to get out of the rut that we’re in, while polarising towards those who pacify us about being in that rut because they’re so understanding.
That’s how we surround ourselves with those who share our shortcomings and our excuses, while we convince ourselves that we found our tribe.
Sins are not sinful because it carries with it the threat of damnation or divine punishment. They’re sinful because they’re an injustice against our soul.
An injustice against ourselves results in us treating others unjustly.
Virtues become sins when applied maliciously or excessively, and sins can be received as a virtue when it uplifts with kindness more than the harshness of religiosity can achieve.
If we’re not careful, we’ll celebrate our virtues because it is supported by those who are equally distracted by their self-praise, while harming others because of our arrogance in worship.
How often hasn’t overt worship been the safe space for abusers and oppressors, while the meek pray silently in the darkness?
Be mindful of who you surround yourself with, and what calibre of advisors you seek.
Otherwise, you may end up destroying yourself while feeling like it was your destiny not to find happiness.
It always starts with you.
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Collective guilt, collective malice
