The Ebb and Flow of Harmony

In every situation there is a provocateur and the provoked. I always fancied myself as the provocateur because more often than not, others lack the courage to disrupt because of the overwhelming need to be liked or celebrated. Popularity drives more actions than purpose ever will. Anyway, I’m sure most can relate to the setting where…

Defining Moments

I’ve often mulled over the idea of one day listing the moments that I believe defined me in ways I often still don’t fully understand. The images that flash through my mind when I contemplate those defining moments are often not scenes of hope and happiness, but most often they’re scenes of struggles, pain, isolation,…

The Vehicle of My Life

The analogy of the car has always been the most versatile and relatable of all when used to describe the complexities of our existence. Recently I’ve found myself preoccupied by its relevance in how we relate our bodies to our souls. But the analogy extends almost seamlessly to reflect how we interpret or experience relationships…

Distracted Moments

There are times when the idealistic bull that I see about people’s expectations from their marriages and relationships in general make me want to puke. It goes well beyond just a mild annoyance or a light giggle because it is so pervasive that it makes me wretch. The reason why it has that effect is…

Wow I didnt know you had a daughter.. what happened to your wife? how old are you? Would you ever consider re marrying? May Allah make it easy on you and your daughter I hope that things turn out.

My daughter’s mother died in a car accident two years ago. We were divorced for a few years before that, and as these situations tend to get bitter quite often, I was denied access to my daughter for the better part of that time. So when her mother died, I automatically got full custody being…

Sisters, you are meant to be a comfort in this dunya for your husbands.

hakuna-mataataa: Don’t become the reason for their anguish or stress. They face enough of that from work and the community. Remember that it is their job primarily to give da’wah and to build a community but they won’t be able to do so unless they are at peace from within. That comes from you. Causing…