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Conveniently judgemental
Judgement is only ever supposed to be the first step in correcting what’s wrong. Sadly, it’s most often the only step that we take when faced with unbecoming behaviour from others. Worse still, judgement is easy to dish out about issues and incidents that are none of our business because having an opinion on something…
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A burdensome labour of love
Responsibility, when met with gratitude, feels like a labour of love. Remove gratitude, and it becomes a burdensome load. But only if gratitude is expected. That’s when expectations weigh down on us more than responsibility, because of the internal wait for others to reciprocate, or to notice. It’s not unreasonable to hold that expectation. In…
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Prisons of our minds
Without realising it, we create most of the boundaries and the dependencies that we have on others, often without them being aware of it. One of the reasons we do this is because that is our code of life that we’re honouring. It’s our way of respecting or protecting what we see as sacred in…
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The absent parent
Even an absent parent is still parenting. It’s then on the shoulders of the present one to compensate for that. Sometimes, the absence of someone has a greater impact on us than the presence of others. This is especially true for parenting. The absent parent leaves the child with feelings of abandonment, insignificance, and a…
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The single parent challenge
This is a burning issue. I won’t be surprised if we have more single-parent homes than we have two-parent homes these days. In fact, even many two-parent homes are run like a single-parent home because one of the partners are either uninterested, emotionally unavailable, or simply a delinquent child themselves. The crisis is much worse…
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The Ebb and Flow of Harmony
In every situation there is a provocateur and the provoked. I always fancied myself as the provocateur because more often than not, others lack the courage to disrupt because of the overwhelming need to be liked or celebrated. Popularity drives more actions than purpose ever will. Anyway, I’m sure most can relate to the setting where…
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Defining Moments
I’ve often mulled over the idea of one day listing the moments that I believe defined me in ways I often still don’t fully understand. The images that flash through my mind when I contemplate those defining moments are often not scenes of hope and happiness, but most often they’re scenes of struggles, pain, isolation,…
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The Vehicle of My Life
The analogy of the car has always been the most versatile and relatable of all when used to describe the complexities of our existence. Recently I’ve found myself preoccupied by its relevance in how we relate our bodies to our souls. But the analogy extends almost seamlessly to reflect how we interpret or experience relationships…
