Tag: singleparenting

  • The courage to parent properly

    The courage to parent properly

    The courage that is needed, is the courage to seek sincere, informed advisors to help us to understand why we may be struggling to connect with our children. We don’t know what we don’t know. If we try to figure life out by ourselves, we’ll only ever learn the hard way, from our own mistakes. […]

  • A path to insanity

    A path to insanity

    We work with the assumption that our partners and our children share the same values that we try to uphold in our lives. This is rarely true. While we may share the same frame of reference or even the same cultural norms, values are much more personal, and therefore unique. Our personal value systems are […]

  • Do what’s right, or else…

    Do what’s right, or else…

    When raised with fear and compliance as the tool to ensure good behaviour, or religious subscription, we create validation-seeking individuals whose willingness to compromise on what is right will be driven by social acceptance. Instilling values in our children, or living by our own values, must be grounded in a substantial appreciation for why it […]

  • That war within

    That war within

    Sometimes that village is a family, sometimes it’s a group, and sometimes it’s just one person who represents everything that the village stands for. That child grows into the raging adult who destroys every wholesome thing, because they feel like no one deserves peace if they were denied love and acceptance. When you treat the […]

  • Allow them to learn

    Allow them to learn

    Sometimes, out of concern, we try to protect those we care about from mistakes that they are inclined to make. We become the buffer between their bad decisions and the consequences thereof, so that they don’t find themselves in harm’s way. This show of concern or compassion is good, as long as it doesn’t become […]

  • Parents owning it

    Parents owning it

    When we find cause for concern about a specific generation of humans, we must look to the generation before them for answers if we hope to address more than the symptoms of what is wrong. None of us raised ourselves. Similarly, the troubled youth and many adults that we see struggling to make a good […]

  • Father : A silent duty

    Father : A silent duty

    Fathers are often overlooked or forgotten, because they’re seldom in the limelight. Silently serving in the background, they often do what is seen as just their job, or their duty. Not wired with an overt nurturing instinct, but rather that of a silent sentinel, ensuring their family’s safety and comfort, they often grow accustomed to […]

  • Don’t pay it forward

    Don’t pay it forward

    Vengeance is easier than understanding. Bitterness is easier than forgiveness. Mirroring the behaviour of those who treated us badly is easier than rising up to be better than them. Each time we choose the easier path, we become the very monsters and degenerates that created the hurt and pain in our lives. Too often, we […]