Sometimes that village is a family, sometimes it’s a group, and sometimes it’s just one person who represents everything that the village stands for.
That child grows into the raging adult who destroys every wholesome thing, because they feel like no one deserves peace if they were denied love and acceptance.
When you treat the vulnerable, or the gentle one’s, with contempt, you create the same monsters that made you.
That’s how the raging adult spawns more troubled souls that are driven towards burning down their village, with each generation growing more destructive, until someone chooses self-respect over self-loathing.
The distraction of their rage prevents them, and us, from seeing their plea for love and acceptance.
It’s a war within that rages without, because what they feel is at odds with what they need, and despite their best efforts, they don’t know how to achieve it.
So, the shame that bubbles beneath the surface – the shame that they hide from the world about that internal war – drives them to behave in ways that appear to claim what they believe others will not care to give them.
Thus, they project their rage on any innocent being that expects them to be better than that, because they’re no longer children…and only children throw tantrums.
Adults don’t throw tantrums because they don’t need someone else to destroy for them.
They destroy others to feel significant, not because they want the destruction, but because it at least gives them reason to believe that they’re not invisible.
That they still have an impact.
That they will be taken seriously…or else…
Your anger at the world is yours to tame.
You either rage at those who don’t have what you need, or you create it yourself through the alchemy of your soul.
Because that’s what makes us human.
Not that we hurt, or that we love, but that we can create love in the midst of hate, and calm in the midst of chaos, without any aides but the attributes of who we are beyond the rage.
It always starts with you.
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That war within
