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Your misery is your downfall
We rarely share with the world the conversation that we have with ourselves in our head. Our internal conversations are only shared when we’ve exhausted all avenues in trying to understand why someone important to us could have had reason to treat us so badly. The harsh tones and unwarranted criticism that we try to…
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Burn yourself, why don’t you.
Anger always claims a higher price from ourselves than it ever will from the people on whom we project it. And before you assume that to be false because of the lasting impact that it has on its victims, understand that that lasting impact is because of their anger at the one who was taking…
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Own your misery
Miserable are the ones who compete with their companions, and then go searching for companionship among those that will ruin them. Self-pity and self-loathing are the marks of ingratitude that turn your greatest supporters into your greatest distractions. All because you think that they see the inadequacy and shame with which you view yourself. That’s…
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Wow! Look at me now…
Of all the things that test our resolve, the acquisition of knowledge is the most important. It’s easy to get lost in the praise and social elevation that accompanies achievements such as professional qualifications, religious standing, or even business success. And because each of it demands a lot of personal sacrifice and discipline, the feeling…
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Destroying peace to find peace
Rage is a destructive demand for significance when we believe that who we are is not enough to be important to those we love. The anger that spurs on the rage is a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from becoming invisible. We try, in our own little futile ways, to be enough without being able…
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That war within
Sometimes that village is a family, sometimes it’s a group, and sometimes it’s just one person who represents everything that the village stands for. That child grows into the raging adult who destroys every wholesome thing, because they feel like no one deserves peace if they were denied love and acceptance. When you treat the…
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Whose pedestal is it?
When we see people for what we need them to be, rather than who they are, we elevate their position in our lives through no fault of their own. When they fail to meet the expectations that we created because of that unrealistic perspective that we had of them, we feel betrayed and then blame…
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That self-loathing demon
Ingratitude for the self is reflected in how much time we spend self-loathing. But self-loathing is disguised in many creative ways. The above list of 10 common points is only the tip of the iceberg. Self-loathing is rarely, if ever, a result of our current circumstances, and almost always a result of how we felt…
