Burn yourself, why don’t you.

Anger always claims a higher price from ourselves than it ever will from the people on whom we project it.

And before you assume that to be false because of the lasting impact that it has on its victims, understand that that lasting impact is because of their anger at the one who was taking out their anger on them.

When we carry the impact of such anger for long after the incident has passed, it’s because we cannot make peace with what was done to us, while waiting anxiously for our pain or suffering to be acknowledged, and the perpetrator to be given a taste of justice.

No matter the circumstances, our anger is because of our feelings of insignificance or dry the hands of those who treated us badly.

What we hold onto them keeps us on high alert for any signs of anyone else treating us in that way.

That’s why innocent gestures from others will trigger us, because it feels like those experiences that still haunts us.

Anger is our demand for significance from the world, especially from significant others.

Anger is always expressed in a space where we have no fear of repercussions, but is kept at bay when we have reason to fear the consequences of our angry expression.

The one who is angry is the one whose self-worth is low in that moment of anger.

Therefore, as long as you hold onto anger, you diminish your self-worth.

For this reason, we must own our anger, and we must recognise the source of the anger from those around us.

The moment we react in free, we become a willing participant in their war, while believing that we are justified in giving them a taste of their own medicine.

The question is, at what price do we lose ourselves to anger in our fight for justice or in our efforts to correct the wrongs around us?

Anger is not needed for firm and resolute action against injustice.

If anything, it distracts us from our purpose and causes us to become oppressors, just like the ones who oppressed us.

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