Some of the most disheartening moments we may experience include trying to help someone we care about while they reject our efforts.
The harder we try, the more they resist.
The more persistent we are, the greater their anger or bitterness towards us.
Most often, it’s not because of who we are or what we’re trying to do.
Most often, it’s because we represent the source of the shame that they are grappling with.
When someone feels inadequate, or like a failure, being around those who are composed, or appear successful feels like a threat to them because it risks highlighting their lack of achievement.
Sometimes, just being a good person while standing next to a self-loathing person is enough to bring out the rage in them.
Not because we tried to make them feel bad about their state, but because in our presence, their reasons for self-loathing were intensified.
Despite our best intentions in that moment, if we don’t realise that we represent what they detest about themselves, we’ll blame ourselves for not being good enough, when in fact the opposite was true.
As much as we may want to fight the demons of the ones we love, we must understand that some demons are a creation of their own minds, and can therefore only be fought themselves, or with those who don’t appear as a threat to revealing their shame.
If you need assistance in supporting someone you love through such an episode in their lives, or if you are the one grappling with this, reach out via my website at zaidismail.com or on WhatsApp at +27836599183 and together we can create the life that you’ve always wanted.
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Recognise your demons
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Humanity for sale
The ones driven by the validation of others turn themselves into victims.
The ones driven by the belief that no one cares or no one understands, turn themselves into oppressors and abusers.
But when we’re so focused on our own struggles, we fail to see the struggles that we introduce into the lives of others.
That’s why we have no shortage of people reminding others to treat everyone with kindness, but rarely treating anyone with kindness if there’s nothing in it for them.
Even our humanity has become a transaction in this capitalistic world of individual worship.
We worship our needs before we revere any principles or values that we claim to uphold.
Hence humanity’s slide into the abyss of loneliness.
When will we awaken? 😞
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Soul food doesn’t feed the ego
Be careful about advice that makes you feel good but doesn’t resolve anything.
Things that make us feel good either provides us with an emotional high and feeds our ego, or with a spiritual high and feeds our soul.
When we strike a healthy balance between the two, we find peace.
So, be careful of people that only feed your emotional needs, but don’t know how to feed your soul.
Worse still, be careful about confusing emotional fulfilment with soul food. The one makes you feel good about where you’re at, and the other inspires you to grow beyond where you’re at.
Choose carefully.
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