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Raging for love
Nothing destroys more than ingratitude, and ingratitude for the self is expressed through self-loathing. But self-loathing is disguised in many ways, the most common of which is anger. Anger is a defence mechanism that distracts attention away from what we feel inadequate about. It demands that we be taken seriously when we have no reason…
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Maybe tomorrow…
Just like tomorrow is not guaranteed, neither is our next breath. Each moment taken for granted is a moment lost. Each loved one taken for granted is a heartache earned. Each abandoned resolution made after tasting loss or visiting death’s door is food for the seeds of hypocrisy and self-loathing within. The victim mindset turns…
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Internal struggle, outward joy
The martyr within, breathes life into the angel without. A rare few live their lives outwardly, as they feel inwardly about themselves. The need to hide our shame from the world is born from feeling ashamed of who we are, and not because of what others think of us. The opinions of others only matter…
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Cyclical abuse
At first, we remain in a bad relationship because we truly believe in the sincerity of the claims of our partner to want to improve, or to overcome what they’re struggling with. After some time, if we’re not careful, our inability to get them to follow through will convince us that we’re not a good…
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The insincerity of self-loathing
As always, you cannot give what you don’t have. You can’t give someone a smile if you don’t have one yourself. Similarly, you cannot appreciate what you’re ungrateful for. If you take yourself for granted, any appreciation that you express towards others is based on you wanting them to feel appreciated the way that you…
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A victim of your own mind
There’s a difference between being a victim in the moment, versus holding onto the victim mindset long after the moment has passed. We hold on to the victim mindset when we need others to recognise our struggle, or to acknowledge what we’re having to overcome or deal with. The only reason this becomes necessary is…
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Self pity destroys everything
Self pity destroys the very life that we wish we had. It is spawned by the belief that the future holds nothing for us, because the injustices of our past remain unavenged, or unappreciated. Without realising it, we become defined by our struggle, and lose ourselves in the process. Until we are faced with one…
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Recognise your demons
Some of the most disheartening moments we may experience include trying to help someone we care about while they reject our efforts. The harder we try, the more they resist. The more persistent we are, the greater their anger or bitterness towards us. Most often, it’s not because of who we are or what we’re…