Raging for love

Nothing destroys more than ingratitude, and ingratitude for the self is expressed through self-loathing.

But self-loathing is disguised in many ways, the most common of which is anger.

Anger is a defence mechanism that distracts attention away from what we feel inadequate about.

It demands that we be taken seriously when we have no reason to believe that who we are is worthy of being taken seriously.

But more than this, anger is a profession that in that moment, we believe that we are not good enough for one whose validation we desperately need.

Hence it being the most common confirmation of self-loathing when all our defence and coping mechanisms are claiming otherwise.

It also happens when our internal conversation is focused on comparing ourselves to those we think are better than us, or those whose validation we need.

And then we get married to feel complete, only to hold our partners accountable for how we feel about ourselves.

And then we have children to fill that void that just doesn’t seem to fill up, and we become ever more threatened with fears of inadequacy when we don’t know how to be enough as parents.

Thus, innocent lives get destroyed, all because we didn’t learn to be grateful for who we are, while trying to make up for it by raging at those who have nothing to do with how we feel about ourselves.

It always starts with you.

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