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Celebrate the victim, destroy the human
What we take from a traumatic event is infinitely more important than the event itself. It’s how we feel about what we experienced that weighs down on us more than the experience itself. The more it shakes our confidence, the greater our need for reassurance and support. While it’s entirely understandable to be overwhelmed in…
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Wow! Look at me now…
Of all the things that test our resolve, the acquisition of knowledge is the most important. It’s easy to get lost in the praise and social elevation that accompanies achievements such as professional qualifications, religious standing, or even business success. And because each of it demands a lot of personal sacrifice and discipline, the feeling…
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Honourable destruction
When honour is confused with social standing, abuse becomes an acceptable form of saving face. Beyond considerations of family honour, this toxic cultural practice convinces the individual that infidelity becomes excusable because divorce is deplorable. It convinces the brute of the justification of their rage when their partner rejects dehumanising practices by their in-laws. It…
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The quick sand of my mind
The icy breaths that leave my mouth on a miserably cold morning is the only accurate reflection of the emotions that stir within. I see messages proclaiming that love is the answer to the world’s problems, but they don’t realise that most don’t know how to love. It’s the arrogance of the assumption that if…
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Don’t just survive
I see too many people that take pride in being a survivor, which in itself is not unhealthy. It becomes unhealthy when that act of survival defines them for the rest of their lives. Don’t allow a traumatic event, or an abusive relationship to define you beyond the immediate act of surviving it. You are…
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The twins of love and pain
We see in the world around us that which occupies the most space in our hearts. When our hearts are filled with love and affection, we find no place for hate or bitterness. When we hold space in our life for justice for past oppression, we prevent that space from being filled with the love…
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Coming Soon: Launch of Life Coaching Practice
I walked away from a seven figure salary to pursue this dream of mine. The people around me thought I was crazy, and many still do, but I know what I’m passionate about. That is, empowering people to rise above the constraints of their upbringing! In a nutshell, that is my calling in life. To…
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“If Ignorance is Bliss, ‘Tis Folly to be Wise.”
A detached, uninterested look is my favorite pick up line. Rotting, oxidized plums are my choice of fine wine. Homeless streets and rotted benches are my pick for a suitable bed. He left love letters and Benjamins on the floor for me to shred. Without desire to destroy I found myself so starved. I didn’t…
