Celebrate the victim, destroy the human

What we take from a traumatic event is infinitely more important than the event itself.

It’s how we feel about what we experienced that weighs down on us more than the experience itself.

The more it shakes our confidence, the greater our need for reassurance and support.

While it’s entirely understandable to be overwhelmed in the aftermath of a terrible experience, it’s entirely avoidable to become defined by that experience.

That’s when we need to be careful about celebrating or revering the experience of the victim to the point of not building them up to rise above it.

Rising above the horrors of life doesn’t mean carrying a badge of honour to let the world know what you survived.

That’s honouring the victim.

Rising above it means seeing the experience for what it was, recognising what you didn’t know or couldn’t have controlled, and most importantly, remedying your trust that was broken in that moment of upheaval.

Because that is what is lost when we experience a traumatic event.

Our trust with the world is broken, leaving us gripped with fear because of the uncertainty of everything that we once embraced as our safe space.

When we celebrate the victim, we redirect their trust to be placed in their support structures and safe spaces, rather than rebuilding their trust in themselves so that they don’t carry that experience as a dark shadow for the rest of their lives.

This is not victim blaming. It’s destroying the impact of the aggressor beyond the moment of aggression.

Own Your Life.

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