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Honourable destruction
When honour is confused with social standing, abuse becomes an acceptable form of saving face. Beyond considerations of family honour, this toxic cultural practice convinces the individual that infidelity becomes excusable because divorce is deplorable. It convinces the brute of the justification of their rage when their partner rejects dehumanising practices by their in-laws. It…
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Escaping addiction
It’s not drugs that steal our children from us. Like us, they also need to feel significant. Taking drugs is not just a bad habit. It’s a means to escape what we don’t want to deal with in the world around us. Is it a bad decision? Absolutely. Because escaping something never resolves it, it…
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Demand more…of yourself
Unless you believe that you are capable of achieving more, you will always hold on to less. That belief is more about feeling worthy than it is about ability. Sometimes, we look at how our best efforts were received and assume that the negative outcomes bear testament to the value that we have to offer.…
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Do more than survive
Those who respect your victim-hood do so because it makes them feel better about themselves. They either feel more accomplished, or they find comfort in the familiarity of your struggle. Sometimes it gives them purpose in their need to uplift others so that their lives feel more fulfilled. Whether their intentions are good or not…
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Ephemeral existence…
Life, more than anything else, is about perspective. In moments of struggle, we’re inclined to look back on the many times that we were weighed down in life. Sometimes we reminisce about the good times, but from a place of hopelessness believing that we may never experience it again. At such times, it feels like…
