Fear creates more sadness than heartbreak ever will.
Fear keeps us anchored in a moment that has long since passed.
Fear convinces us that we need to be protected from what we previously experienced, while distracting us from the wisdom and strength that we gained from that experience.
Fear prompts us to look for signs and evidence that what we fear may once again be approaching, and distracts us from the signs and evidence that what we hope for is within reach.
Like everything that destroys, fear requires little effort because it is a self-sustaining cycle.
Hope, on the feet hand, requires courage.
Hope demands that we reconnect with who we are before that last bitter encounter.
Hope is not for the meek. When we succumb to fear, the meek prevail and life loses its sweetness.
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Fear breeds sadness
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Trading off the best of me
If kindness and compassion are a reflection of who we are, there can be no prerequisite for anyone to have to deserve it, or to earn it from us.
How we express it towards them may take different forms, including tough love.
But it is our intention behind that tough love, and how we follow through with it, that determines if it was indeed inspired by kindness and compassion, or by anger or frustration.
The moment we expect someone to earn our kindness, respect, or any other virtue that we claim to possess, we lose that virtue and replace it with arrogance.
Arrogance is a result of a low self esteem.
There is no reason to demand recognition of our contribution if we truly appreciate the value of what we contribute.
Therefore, we diminish ourselves by trading with others that which we should be valuing within ourselves.
Express the beauty of you despite the bitterness of those around you.
It may be the very catalyst needed to break the cycle of your life that you so despise.
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Understanding misunderstanding
When we find that, despite our sincerest efforts, we continue to be misunderstood, consider that perhaps we need to focus on understanding instead.
Understanding becomes difficult when we’re gripped with the desperation of needing others to understand how important something is to us.
That desperation is often driven by fear, or self pity, rather than conviction. And it’s fed by a belief that they simply don’t realise how important it is.
If we’re not careful, this is how we become the architects of our own misery, or the result of our own self-fulfilling prophecy.
The greater our emotional investment, the more likely we are to contaminate that space with fear or self pity.
Creating space for understanding is the most important thing you can do to avoid a potential lifetime of regret.
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Ephemeral existence…
Life, more than anything else, is about perspective.
In moments of struggle, we’re inclined to look back on the many times that we were weighed down in life.
Sometimes we reminisce about the good times, but from a place of hopelessness believing that we may never experience it again.
At such times, it feels like life is long and dreary.
But when we connect with joys from the past, and hope to recreate even greater joys in future, the fleeting nature of life is impressed upon us.
Our need to focus on the bad experiences is an attempt at protecting our fragile hearts from having to face such heartache or disappointment again.
Focus on the joys, and suddenly we connect with our ability to smile in the face of trials, and to reconnect with joy even after the gravest disappointment.
Breathe, beloved…our default state is joy, if only we’ll embrace it more than we hold onto the fear. A joyful life is always still possible as long as there is breath left in our lungs.
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