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Let’s exchange needs
Men complain about lack of intimacy and women complain about emotional unavailability. Sometimes, the roles are reversed, but generally, these are the two most common issues that couples face in a relationship. Problem is, neither is the problem that needs to be solved. We’re naturally more emotionally available in spaces where we feel seen or…
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To be loved
To be seen… Beyond the facade. To have the essence of who we are, known to those we trust and hold dear. To be heard… Not only when we cry out, but also when we speak gently of the troubles in our heart. To be loved… For more than how we make others feel, but…
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Torturous love
And so it is…love and torture have always been stablemates. Sometimes, without warning, someone enters your life and challenges every assumption that you ever made about what’s possible. What you thought you deserved was limited to what you were capable of achieving up to that point, and maybe just a quiet desire to acquire some…
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That war within
Sometimes that village is a family, sometimes it’s a group, and sometimes it’s just one person who represents everything that the village stands for. That child grows into the raging adult who destroys every wholesome thing, because they feel like no one deserves peace if they were denied love and acceptance. When you treat the…
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Have we forgotten how to love?
Most of us have forgotten how to truly love another. Love has become so commercialised, that we confuse a mutual exchange of interest and benefits as love. That’s why we end up believing that only as long as we’re getting what we need, do we have reason to feel loved. Meanwhile, we lose sight of…
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Looking a gift horse in the mouth
When we’re driven by aesthetics and appearances, social standing becomes more important than substance or authenticity. We lose ourselves to the way we want to be perceived, rather than what we want to create. We grow defined by how others treat us, or how well we can hide our flaws. We pursue all the right…
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Understand before you judge harshly
Before you get upset with someone for not treating you the way that you want them to treat you, consider that what you need may not come naturally to them. Without meaning to, we oppress others when we assume that just because we’re capable of something, they should be too. This is especially true when…
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Don’t test the ones you love. Love them.
Ever find that despite your best efforts, someone close to you just never appreciates what you do for them? Ever feel like you’re having to fulfil their expectations in detail about how to do something the way that they want you to do it before they are satisfied with you? Even then, when you do…
