Elusive peace…

Peace...that elusive mist that needs to enshroud everything.Its absence creates the need to change the circumstances of our lives, so that we leave no space for nothing, needing every space to be filled with something. Some look to fill those spaces with trinkets and tokens.Others look to fill it with purposeful endeavours.But central to both, [...]

Ingratitude breeds ingratitude

When we're ungrateful for who we are,When we deny any good in ourselves that others may see,When we ignore our beauty because there may exist some ugly,We protect ourselves from attachment to anything wholesome or beautiful in life.Our need for such protection is a deeply ingrained fear about never being good enough.Not good enough for [...]

Destroying the one we love

When we look at ourselves with harshness or pity, we find reason to protect ourselves and others from what we see.We convince ourselves that we are a burden or a curse to those who deserve better than what we have to offer.Or, we convince ourselves that we won't be able to bear them leaving, so [...]

Claim your humanness

My daughter looked quite distressed when she asked me this question over the weekend."What drives people to be so cruel to animals, like skinning them alive, or abusing them for profits?"The first thought that came to mind was this. We only lose our humanity when we feel less than human.The truth is, we only lose [...]

Enabling our oppressors

We only give others permission to disrespect us when we disrespect ourselves first.Disrespect of the self takes many shapes and forms including compromising our values for personal gain, accepting abuse from fear of abandonment, restraining our contribution from fear of rejection, and more.When treating ourselves with disrespect becomes the norm, accepting disrespect becomes the theme [...]