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A path to insanity
We work with the assumption that our partners and our children share the same values that we try to uphold in our lives. This is rarely true. While we may share the same frame of reference or even the same cultural norms, values are much more personal, and therefore unique. Our personal value systems are…
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What do you see in the mirror?
Given how easily we can change how we present ourselves to others through social media these days, it’s important to remember how much of our authenticity has to be sacrificed in the process. Be true to yourself, online and offline, and you won’t need filters to make your life or yourself appear to be different…
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A diet of fear
This is probably one of the most important things you could ever connect with. So much damage is caused by fear driven decisions. It destroys your spirit leaving you to find comfort in the very source of the fear that is destroying you. If you’ve been raised on a diet of fear and compliance, it…
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The balance of happiness
Without meaning to, life can become a trading exercise in which we give something with the expectation of receiving something else in return. That’s when it gets complicated. When the assumptions of one or both becomes entangled in the belief that happiness lies in a like-for-like exchange of sentiment or gifts, or perhaps effort. Sometimes,…
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Respectfully dishonest
This is especially true for our relationships with ourselves, more than it reflects on our relationships with others. We disrespect ourselves when we avoid truths that feel shameful or disappointing about who we are. That shame or disappointment that we feel is because we’re looking at ourselves through other people’s eyes, or at least what…
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Reconnect with your innate wisdom
We all have an innate wisdom that we lose sight of as the distractions of life accumulate. When we go out in search of answers and adopt methods that worked for someone else, we further distance ourselves from that innate wisdom. This distancing that occurs undermines our authenticity, and leaves us feeling at odds with…
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Depression is not an illness
I realise that this is a highly contentious point. But we must recognise the elephant in the room before we are able to deal with it. The myth that depression is an illness causes more harm than the good it’s intended to achieve. Depression is the absence of hope. Preceding that is the saturation of…
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Dare to dream
When we pursue the impossible, we achieve the unbelievable. But, we’re often so distracted by how impossible our goal might appear, that we lose sight of everything that its pursuit offers us. Fortune cookie wisdom tells us that it’s the journey that matters, not the destination. Yet, we lose sight of the growth that the…
