The balance of happiness

Without meaning to, life can become a trading exercise in which we give something with the expectation of receiving something else in return. That’s when it gets complicated. When the assumptions of one or both becomes entangled in the belief that happiness lies in a like-for-like exchange of sentiment or gifts, or perhaps effort. Sometimes,…

Respectfully dishonest

This is especially true for our relationships with ourselves, more than it reflects on our relationships with others. We disrespect ourselves when we avoid truths that feel shameful or disappointing about who we are. That shame or disappointment that we feel is because we’re looking at ourselves through other people’s eyes, or at least what…

Reconnect with your innate wisdom

We all have an innate wisdom that we lose sight of as the distractions of life accumulate. When we go out in search of answers and adopt methods that worked for someone else, we further distance ourselves from that innate wisdom. This distancing that occurs undermines our authenticity, and leaves us feeling at odds with…

Depression is not an illness

I realise that this is a highly contentious point. But we must recognise the elephant in the room before we are able to deal with it. The myth that depression is an illness causes more harm than the good it’s intended to achieve. Depression is the absence of hope. Preceding that is the saturation of…

Dare to dream

When we pursue the impossible, we achieve the unbelievable. But, we’re often so distracted by how impossible our goal might appear, that we lose sight of everything that its pursuit offers us. Fortune cookie wisdom tells us that it’s the journey that matters, not the destination. Yet, we lose sight of the growth that the…

Invest purposefully in your life

Invest in creating the life that you want, rather than escaping the life that you don’t want. It might sound obvious, but take a breather and consider what drives your choices. Are you driven by the need to avoid unpleasant encounters in your life? Or are you driven by the need to create encounters that…