Tag: counselling

  • Master patience

    Master patience

    Remembering to hold on to hope, and to abandon my expectations of others has always been my saving grace for my sanity and my dignity. Expectations, whether legitimate or not, are rooted in a sense of entitlement to receive what we need from others. Expectations are key to a healthy relationship, because when we can…

  • Don’t choose the hard way

    Don’t choose the hard way

    The original Afrikaans saying for this is somewhat more impactful. ‘Die wat nie will hoor nie, moet voel.’ Translated, that means that if you don’t want to listen, then you’ll feel the pain. While it may have been regularly used as a taunt by teachers and parents towards misbehaving kids, it is totally apt for…

  • Reconnect with your innate wisdom

    Reconnect with your innate wisdom

    We all have an innate wisdom that we lose sight of as the distractions of life accumulate. When we go out in search of answers and adopt methods that worked for someone else, we further distance ourselves from that innate wisdom. This distancing that occurs undermines our authenticity, and leaves us feeling at odds with…

  • Fearfully hopeful

    Fearfully hopeful

    Patience is only patience when it is the foundation of hope. Not when it is the pacifier of fear. Hope is the currency of growth, whereas fear is what breeds decay. To patiently await the decay of what we hold dear is not patience, it is surrender. To hope, despite the apparent futility that stares…

  • The value of values

    The value of values

    One of the paths to insanity is to try to reason around someone else’s actions or behaviour by assuming that their value system is the same as yours. This includes people who come from the same culture, tradition, ethnicity, and even family as you do. Our value system may be informed by a common framework…

  • Defining Moments Life Coaching

    Defining Moments Life Coaching

    Defining moments are those moments that mark a turning point in our lives. It’s either recalled as a moment of upliftment, or sadly too often a moment of duress. Both, however, define our lives and influences our behaviour in ways that we rarely recognise.

  • Coming Soon: Launch of Life Coaching Practice

    Coming Soon: Launch of Life Coaching Practice

    I walked away from a seven figure salary to pursue this dream of mine. The people around me thought I was crazy, and many still do, but I know what I’m passionate about. That is, empowering people to rise above the constraints of their upbringing! In a nutshell, that is my calling in life. To…