The original Afrikaans saying for this is somewhat more impactful.
‘Die wat nie will hoor nie, moet voel.’
Translated, that means that if you don’t want to listen, then you’ll feel the pain.
While it may have been regularly used as a taunt by teachers and parents towards misbehaving kids, it is totally apt for adults as well.
Our reasons for avoiding, or even rejecting good advice is not always because we think we know better. Often, it’s because we assume that taking advice is a sign of weakness or incompetence. Hence our preference to learn the hard way instead.
Add to that the source being someone who already, just by their presence, intimidates us, and suddenly an offering of advice from them feels like an attack.
At the heart of it is our sense of self-worth. The lower our confidence, the more likely it is that an innocent gesture will appear as an attack.
Low emotional maturity is the biggest stumbling block towards growth, and towards owning our life.
Improving your emotional maturity is not about learning coping mechanisms for when you feel triggered, it’s about growing to understand why you are inclined towards feeling triggered at all.
Stop coping with life and start thriving. It all begins with gaining insight into who you are and what shaped you to be this way.
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Don’t choose the hard way
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Reconnect with your innate wisdom
We all have an innate wisdom that we lose sight of as the distractions of life accumulate.
When we go out in search of answers and adopt methods that worked for someone else, we further distance ourselves from that innate wisdom.
This distancing that occurs undermines our authenticity, and leaves us feeling at odds with life rather than comforting us.
To reconnect with that peace that feels so elusive, we must reconnect with that innate wisdom, or else life will continue to feel like a detached experience.
It is only in sincere conversation that truths are encountered and wisdom adopted.
For this reason, I am not hers to teach you anything new. My sole purpose is to reconnect you with the wisdom that you already have within you.
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Defining moments are those moments that mark a turning point in our lives. It’s either recalled as a moment of upliftment, or sadly too often a moment of duress. Both, however, define our lives and influences our behaviour in ways that we rarely recognise.
When those defining moments are positive experiences, recognising them allows us to build on the momentum that it offered and makes such moments sustainable and repeatable. The moments that weighed us down can stifle our growth and confidence for years to come. It leaves us feeling burdened and exhausted compelling us to find ways to cope with what feels like external stress from work, family, social, or all of the above.
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