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You are responsible for your abusive ways
This is true about abusive men and women. Not just men. “Stop complaining and just take it like a man!” “Why can’t you just be a man?” “He’s so useless. I wish my husband was like yours!” “it’s not as bad as you’re making it out to be” “You deserved it.” “If it was another…
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Are you sure you have an attitude of gratitude?
With all the ‘attitude of gratitude’ narratives, I thought it might be helpful to identify when we’re not being as grateful as we think we are. Gratitude for the self is reflected in how you value who you are without a need to diminish the value of others. Sometimes, we convince ourselves that we need…
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Selective inheritance
Our relationship with our parents, whether they were present or absent, wholesome or abusive, will have a distinct impact on how we shape our character through life. Not only will we develop our sense of self based on how we felt in their presence, but they are also our main point of reference in how…
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Recycling generational trauma
One of the biggest mistakes in trying to break the generational trauma cycle is that we focus on NOT wanting to be like our parents. All that allows us to do is figure out what we don’t want for ourselves and our children. While that might seem like enough, it also means that we will…
