fbpx

A moment of trust

It’s impossible to go through life without trusting others.

But, if we’re not careful, the trust that we invest in others could result in consequences that create a struggle for the rest of our lives.

Most often, when choosing a partner, we focus on how trustworthy they are in the present circumstances, but have no idea how they will be should circumstances change.

Equally so, we often have no idea how we may cope under duress should our circumstances change.

That’s when things get complicated, or when things outside of our control bring out the worst in us.

99% of relationships encounter issues because of a change in external circumstances that brings out a side of our partner, or us, that we never thought possible.

In that moment of duress, we either expect them to be understanding and supportive, no matter what, or we expect them to be consistent in their love and trust towards us, no matter what. All depending on who is going through the trying circumstance.

That’s when trust is tested.

Navigating such circumstances become that much more complicated when we assume that they were dishonest about who they were, or what they stood for.

The reality is that most of us fail the consistency test when we encounter unexpected duress as a result of a change in circumstances. This includes the simple change between being in a courtship versus being married.

The change in role results in a change in expectations, which is what provokes insecurities that we never knew we had.

If we don’t have a healthy support structure to help us through that transition, and if we’re not open to advice when we experience such challenges, we set ourselves up for a lifetime of pain because of the belief that we were betrayed, or that we’re not understood.

Be careful with how you rely on trust to get you through life. Most often, it’s not trust that is the issue but inflexible expectations based on insecurity.

Own Your Life.

#selfworth #selfawareness #ownyourlife #theegosystem #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #lifecoaching #zaidismail #trust #authenticity #expectation

close

WANT MORE?

SIGN UP TO RECEIVE FRESH INSIGHTS INTO UNDERSTANDING THE LIFE THAT YOU HAVE, SO THAT YOU CAN CREATE THE LIFE THAT YOU WANT.

I promise to never spam you.
Read my privacy policy for more info.

Share your thoughts on this...

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: