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Labelling humans
We dehumanise the human when we label their emotional experience as an illness. The moment we attach a label to a life experience, we focus on the label and discard the merits of the experience. We make people invisible when we deny the reality of their experience by suggesting that there is something clinically wrong…
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It doesn’t make you stronger
The belief that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger is a lie. It may prepare us for greater trials and opportunities, but we also grow impatient or intolerant when we find ourselves facing the same issues repeatedly. Life feels fulfilling and purposeful when we solve a problem and move on, but feels exceedingly frustrating…
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You cannot make them rise
I’ve seen, and experienced first hand, the disaster that awaits when we convince ourselves that the demons that others deal with is our responsibility to resolve. Being kind, compassionate, and even understanding does not mean that we must own the decisions that others have made, especially when those decisions include them choosing to hold on…
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The past sucks eggs
Life sucks when we take our experiences with others from the past and project it onto the relationship that we have with someone in our present. Sadly, this applies to all relationships, not just marriage or romantic partnerships. It applies to the parent-child relationship as much as it applies to spouses. Especially in times when…
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You judge others as you judge yourself
Judgement is easy. Understanding, empathy, compassion…not so easy. It only gets easier when we are capable of treating ourselves with kindness. But that isn’t as easy as it sounds. In fact, many of our efforts at kindness are harmful because we’re distracted from recognising what prompts our deliberate acts of kindness. Towards ourselves, and towards…
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Live the life that you have
Having dreams and goals are great, but not if it robs you of the beauty of what you have. Like it has been said, there is nothing so bad that there is no good in it. Similarly, no matter how desperate or miserable life appears, there is always something to be grateful for, or something…
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Let’s exchange needs
Men complain about lack of intimacy and women complain about emotional unavailability. Sometimes, the roles are reversed, but generally, these are the two most common issues that couples face in a relationship. Problem is, neither is the problem that needs to be solved. We’re naturally more emotionally available in spaces where we feel seen or…
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Every mind can be healed
TRIGGER WARNING: If you prefer a victim mindset, don’t read further. This is an extremely important reminder given the horribly unhealthy mindset that this meme encourages. There is no such thing as a broken mind. There is a struggling human, and there is good reason to feel duress, even debilitating duress. Understanding the reasons for…
