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The destruction of self-deprecation

In our efforts to subdue our ego, many resort to self-deprecation.

Sometimes we put ourselves down to test if anyone will be willing to disagree with us, thereby hoping to receive acknowledgement or appreciation that would otherwise not be forthcoming.

At other times, we put ourselves down because we try to convince ourselves that we should not expect more from those around us.

In both instances, we know, deep down inside, that we are being dishonest with ourselves.

However, when we are convinced of our inadequacy, or truly believe that we’re not worth more or good enough, that’s when we become saturated with ingratitude.

The reason we become convinced of our lowly state is not because of who we know ourselves to be. It’s because we constantly judge ourselves by how much others accept or approve of who we are.

If we reject ourselves, we become more reliant on validation from others.

Worse still, if we reject ourselves, we rarely fulfil the rights of others because we don’t believe that we’ll be good enough, so we avoid the rejection by not contributing in the way that is expected from us.

On the surface, we may appear obstinate or selfish, but the truth beneath the surface is that we’re simply putting up our defences to avoid our shame from being revealed. That is, the shame of what we think we’re lacking in.

Gratitude for the self cannot be inserted by anyone else.

No amount of validation from others will establish such gratitude. If anything, external validation will risk taking ourselves for granted because we’ll lose ourselves to doing things for show or praise, rather than sincerity.

Be careful of the slippery slope of ingratitude.

It destroys more lives than any other vice we may have.

#gratitude #selfworth #selfawareness #ownyourlife #selfmastery #mindfulness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #lifecoaching #zaidismail #authenticity #bestlife

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