When silence is preferred

We’re sometimes so focused on being heard, that we don’t stop to consider if we’re taking the time to understand.

Feeling heard is similar to feeling appreciated, and no one behaves badly when they feel appreciated.

Therefore, when we encounter difficulties in communicating with those close to us, we must pause to consider why it is that they may have a need to be heard before they’re willing to listen.

When this goes on for long enough, and we’re forced to choose between walking away or remaining silent, we remain silent to keep the peace so that our living conditions are bearable.

That silence is not always silent. Often, it’s passive aggressive in being selective about engaging.

Like engaging willingly with friends or extended family, but only having essential conversations with our significant others.

When communicating becomes a burden, or a reason for endless arguments or nitpicking, or circular debates, silence is preferred if walking away is not an option.

To break the cycle, as always, we must focus on what we contribute to that cycle, and we must change that.

If we’re unhappy about the cycle in which we find ourselves, we must own our contribution towards that cycle rather than frustrating ourselves waiting for others to change what they contribute towards that cycle.

This is especially true for problems with communication.

When we’re not getting the engagement that we’d like to have with our partners, or others, we must consider why it is that what is obvious or important to us, is not obvious or important to them.

Hint: It’s never because we’re not good enough for them. Most often, it’s because they don’t feel significant enough to us.

It always starts with you.

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